I havent slept alot over the last few nights and would like others views on this....
Married 17 years...
2 children 1 18yrs 1 13 yrs
Him
house value 128k mortgage 116k
claims parents have lent him 12 k
wages 2477 a month
car 2k
pension 50k
debts 17k that i knew of
shares unknown value as claims he has none
Me
House value 150k purchased out of inhertence left by my parents
wages 1350 a month includes working tax credit
child maintenance etc
car 2k
pension 6k
debt 12k
I have been advised i have a strong case for maintenance whilst son is in education but my ex has said if take him to court he would ringfence my property but has been saying that since day one as a threat..i have had if you dont sell the marital house by x date then i will ringfence hence while i sold.
This situation seems unfair to me i have done retail jobs which fit aound the children and will have to retrain to be able to earn at least 15oo a month.
I have look ok on paper now but at 19 after my son finishes college im financally screwed...it seems unfair that in 6 years my ex will still earn 2400 amonth still have 50k pension and when his parents pass away he will also have a house thats paid for plus the shares which hes hidden.
I have the option to take him to court but me sol has said it may be 5k but im already 12k in debt and would the maintenance out weigh the costs of taking him to court!
I feel ive feel stiched up by a kipper by him and to make matters worse...he doesnt even seem interested in picking his son up from school to help me out which is why i think hes not gone for custody of him!
They say its usually the man who comes off worst but not in this case....
He claims that hes had no money since we split but has paid costs for divorce if i cooperate...left me with unpaid bills from previous house even though he said he would pay them!
others views on this would be appreciated...im scared to take him to court incase the judge awards him part of my property because my priority lies with keeping a roof over my sons head and im scared of putting myself in another 5k of debt...