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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

What steps can we take to reach a fair agreement?

The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

What is a Consent Order and why do we need one?

A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.


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I don''t believe her documents are real

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16 May 12 #330804 by sotiredofthisnow
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One last thing, you said above ''if you do end up in court''. Thing is I don''t think it necessarily will. The marital home is in negative equity so it''s a small pot. The only thing to decide is a lump sum to take care of a disparity in incomes. If we go the voluntary disclosure route, using solicitors, will her ''documents'' ever get seen by a court? or does her form E go to my solicitor and no further? Is it any more expensive to insist on court proceedings, rather than doing things voluntarily? Will I have to insist on court proceedings to get to the truth?
Thanks very much

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16 May 12 #330819 by dukey
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No if you both agree after disclosure with solicitors court will see nothing evidential in fact the judge will only see a short form you both complete.

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16 May 12 #330829 by sexysadie
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On the other hand, if the pot is so small, why does it matter? It''s not worth paying thousands just to ''get at the truth'' if it makes no difference to the outcome.

best wishes,
Sadie

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16 May 12 #330833 by soulruler
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You can make an offer to settle any disparity in income. However, it depends on the disparity as if it is not large other factors will come into play.

Definitely as there is negative equity and a need for somewhere for both of you to live you should be careful in getting involved in expensive solicitors fees.

A couple of months of ping pong correspondence between solicitors could wipe out years of disparity in income.

Think carefully. On the subject of doctored statements my husband blanked out the address on his bank statements (because he was living with new woman but on his financial e said that he wasn''t).

Judges are not stupid so don''t fall into the trap yourself. Also don''t get into a battle mentality as sexysadie warned you might well regret it longer term.

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16 May 12 #330922 by sotiredofthisnow
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Thanks all of you, wise advice, you are quite right. What I really want is to get on with my life. We''ve been separated 2 years and my wife asked first for a cheap online diy divorce by agreement and we reached an agreement, then changed her mind and petitioned me with a solicitor (fair enough I suppose) and said there was no agreement. then I heard nothing for a year, until asked to go to mediation, 1 meeting later she''s pulled out of mediation. aaaaarggghh

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16 May 12 #330926 by soulruler
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You are in negative equity and don''t want by the sounds of things to get married soon to any one else. In the circumstance it would appear that getting a solicitor involved or a court is a bit of a waste of time especially as she is not interested in mediation (no wonder as there is nothing to fight about).

You could be married to the end of time and unless there is much to fight about who cares?

You can worry too much some times.

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16 May 12 #331013 by sotiredofthisnow
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Thanks. OK here''s a new one.
My home valuer says £130k , she arranged one and they said ''tidied up a bit would sell for £170-190k !
mental ! the house behind is much bigger and sold for 150k last year and the valuer who just told her 170-190 said £160k to me last year !! wtf ??????

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