You are an adult and have to make your own decisions.
However I think that to agree a consent order without having sight of his financial declaration is possibly a bit foolish. Like Mike I could not second guess the judge ... but I doubt this CO would get past them if it is unfair.
This is not just about you. You and your ex have a child together who needs to be housed and supported ... and you will soon have a new baby which will restrict your earning capability at least for a while. I would urge you to ensure you have a fair settlement. Once it is signed and stamped, there is no going back.
I understand that, but I don''t have time to wait around. It''s taken almost three years to get to this stage and I really need the money now. I''m just finishing the second year of my degree and I need the money to fund next years fees, along with childcare costs.
As hadenoughnow says, you are an adult. But it is only fair to point out that, in my view, and the view of others, the proposed settlement is not fair to you. If you wish to accept it, we have discharged our duty to you.
But I would be interested to know whether the judge does sign it off.
I know, and I appreciate your advice/concern. The last thing I and my children need is for me not to be able to complete my degree though, which this money will enable me to do. I will let you know what the outcome is. In the meantime, is it best to hold off on the Decree Absolute?
Jenna, why are you paying your university fees upfront? Don''t you qualify for a loan - or indeed a bursary given your circumstances? It''s certainly not worth paying them at this stage if you don''t have to if it means that you accept a bad divorce settlement.