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DON''T DO IT!!!! (Sorry... it needs shouting)

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02 Jul 12 #340552 by artychokeuk
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My case is long-standing here. (3.5yrs now)

I tried everything humanly possible to stay away from the legal channel. My ex W thought she could "expedite matters" and get a £s max settlement.

Anyway, I won my appeal but she challenged the wording of the judgement drafted with/by her legal team. Tomorrow I return to court to enforce it.

I''ve just heard she''s fired her lawyers.
She wants the hearing cancelled in order to negotiate. Her past history of reneging, time-wasting and U-turns is awful. My lawyer has drafted settlement terms and told her the hearing is on until she signs.

The whole nonsense has been hell-on earth. Avoid it at all costs because nothing will be gained. Remain civil and polite. Find agreement if you possibly can.

Thanks to everyone here. God bless and thank you all. It''s not over for me ... still there are "issues".

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04 Jul 12 #341009 by dukey
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Yup your solicitor is doing the right thing here, at some point through this farce a judge needs to end it once and for all, maybe even refusing future applications from your ex to end the madness, you never know maybe this will be the final hearing and you can begin to put this sorry story behind you.

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04 Jul 12 #341015 by artychokeuk
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Thankyou.

It went as hoped.

One small area of comfort:

I was awarded a share in W''s pension (1st Order) but it never ''happened'' in terms of formalisation with pension provider. I gather she has been merrily topping the fund up. My lawyer confirmed that the division will occur at current value rather than when the Order was made. I suspect, like me, she hasn''t given a thought that she is still contributing to my share!

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04 Jul 12 #341017 by dukey
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So do you think this is the end of it (finally) or are there still other issues to sort, was a pension annex prepared at court or is it still to complete?.

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04 Jul 12 #341043 by artychokeuk
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My solicitor is exceptionally good and assured me everything is or will be covered. He will deal with the Court re the pension.

There was a "liberty to apply" clause yesterday but I can''t specifically say about a pension annex. I think not. I don''t understand - other than the sharing was in the undisputed part of the original Order.

Should I now be worried (again)?

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04 Jul 12 #341046 by dukey
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No i don`t think you should worry at all, the liberty to apply bit is just there should you need to enforce the pension share, what it means is a judge can sign the sharing order should she refuse or take too long.

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