As of yet i havent gone through the court process of sorting finances.
As it stands i received my inheritence back which was under a deed of trust and my ex pays cm of 350 a month.
Ive already had my Absolute through but am worried that if we get finances sorted properly through court he will come back and make a claim on this proprty and his solicitor has written to say he will.
Although i have a letter from his solicitor nothing has ever been signed to say we both agree finances and im worried that he still could come back and make a claim years down the line.
I dont have the money to take him to court and hes claiming hes got no money to go to court but he wont disclose form E voluntary and im unsure what to do as i want to move on.
I do know i cant trust him as at christmas he instructed his solicitor to ask for a cheque for half our joint loan balance and they would send both cheques together but ive since found out that he is paying the loan off at £50 a month which will take 6 years to clear!.
I also know that he said at the very beginning he would pay £600 to me a month for maintenace and this was dropped to 350 so i cant trust him at all!
You really need to get a Consent Order signed and sealed, this is the only way to get financial closure and give you a piece of mind. By completing Ancillary Relief form A and sending it to the court this will enforce disclosure and set a timetable but does not mean you are bound to the whole court process you could still agree and settle between yourselves and ask the judge to stamp the order.
I thought you may say that maisy.His solictor has threatened that he will come for my house if i do!Its a huge gamble to take but who knows what the future holds and what he will do.
I dont see why he wont disclose it voluntarly...it all seems such a huge stress! xx
Yes it says he will issue form a and come after the proceeds i recieved from the matermonial house which was inheritence tied up in the deed of trust.
I do worry if i do nothing he may come back and make a claim xx
You are in a double edge sword situation. Either you live in constant worry about what may happen in the future or get it out of the way now which may mean you lose some inheritance. I can''t tell you what to do for the best, but I do know I would want complete closure so I could get on with my life.
Have you posted full details of finances, ages, length of marriage etc to see what may be regarded as a fair solution by other wiki''s.
I dont think you can class the solicitor letter as a threat.
Its my understanding that all assets would be considered in a divorce including your inheritance even if it was tied up in a deed of trust. Its still an asset that you have whether your ex is entitled to a share is completely different matter.
Was it only the inheritance that paid for the house?