Hi all, been a few weeks since I joined, introduced myself and posted on this fantastic site: I feel brave enough now to start my own thread since I have a pressing question regarding MPS. Will be ticking all the boxes re Ancilliary Relief but do intend to apply for MPS - since ex has left me with nothing, made himself voluntarily unemployed as soon as he got a whiff of impending divorce, but I won''t go on! Suffice to say, ok, I tick all the AR boxes but according to the excellent article by Alexander Chandler and posted on here by such lovley helpful people, one also has to apply for MPS via a D11. So is it Form A and a D11 to apply. I need money desperately - I can not afford a solicitor, and am LIP by necessity. Furthermore, my ex has been lying about a) leaving his job b) already drawing his pension and lying about that amount too c) I fear he is in the process of dissapating marital assets as I speak - including the pension!
I can not take out a freezing order, since we seperated 20 months ago: he was always very secretive anyway and had bank accounts here there and everywhere - he even bought a flat behind my back when we were married - that is how duplicitous he is! So, we have had nothing to do with eachother apart from the usual absusive texts to me, and contacting my octogenerian parents for information about my intentions re a divorce....... the only thing I asked when I left him, was to leave those poor souls alone, but he even reneged on that.
Sorry, am going on a bit there! Point is though, anyone kind enough to reply, can someone actually clear up what seems to be a bit of ambiguity here? I thought MPS would be on Form A, but according to article posted on here, one also needs to submit a D11?????? Or have I missed something - probably just going mad, I think!
What I have learnt though, is once you walk out the MH - and especially in cases of Domestic Violence - best to
apply for divorce asap - else, you run the risk of ex dissapating assets..... as has happened in my case over these last 20 months, where I was too numb and too much in pain --and honestly? - too damn scared of him to do anything, but just exist in the black hole of depression.
I am getting a bit of my old spirit back now, though... I mean he even put my dad on Facebook and now parades an assortment of women he''ll know I will see... I am not on there. That really was the last straw upsetting them at their ages.... so
big breath, I am going to start divorce proceedings - been saying that for months now, but I can''t keep taking hand-outs from them. Neither can I work, haven''t done so for two years due to the depression and the realisation, he played me for a fool. That hurt, but it all stacks up. Even lying about having stopped being in employment, lying about his pension - though hey ho, apparently pensions in payment is all part of marital pot, and a bit easier than the whole actuary/CEBV thing. I need to get a CEB on that, but how?
I am also thinking about taking non-molestation order out on him so he leaves both me and my poor old parents alone - ( for those out there trying to get rid of an abusive partner - costs 70 quid - BUT you have to have very good reasons and from what I have learnt on here, judge usually likes to get the offending person to take an ''Undertaking''. Good enough for me, if I get the nerve to do it.
I have done nothing yet - not even filled in my D8.
To those others out there in same boat, re Domestic Violence, and one was posted on here tonigth but I forget OP''s name, I will reply to you after this just with a supportive message.
This site is so good - I have learnt so much.
OK, sorry, first ever thread and I am going on a bit, but basically, MPS - Form A or Form A + D11? Sorry to have laboured on, but other people may find something I have said in this post helpful regarding their own situation, especially regarding an abusive ex. They work on your psyche, so you end up with no confidence and no self-esteem. This is why it has taken me 20 months to nurse my wounds enough to take him on: I have to. Will post on domestic violence thread in a min, in the hope I can give other women out there basic sound advice.
In the meantime, could some kind person tell me, Form A and/or Form A + a D11 re MPS?
Many thanks to all of you.
Feel a bit embarrassed re-reading. But I hope this post may have been of some use to some one else. Will now answer that poor new person with the one year old baby...name of OP I forget.
Thanks again. Hmm, am I going to be brave enough to click the send button? For all I know he might be in here, so I have to be so guarded as to what I say for fear of identification.
I need to get my D8 in pretty damn quickly - to those totally clueless, as the Petioner, you have more control and I know I will get great relief once I finaly get the strength and nerve to submit my D8 - court timetabled then, you see. Just trying to help, but this is best put on another post more relevant. This is about AR - or Financial Remedies, I think the term now is.... sorry, if in wrong place!
It has been very cathartic writing this, now do I delete or send? I can''t do anything until I know how to apply for MPS, and I am confident I will get it - I would remind you I obliged to be LIP, so go easy with me! Sorry if I have got a bit emotional and all that....
Thanks again. Now over to that poor woman with the baby...........