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19 Aug 12 #350461 by coasttocoast
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Hi, recently had my first hearing and now have my date for FDR.
At the first hearing the judge said to us both that she would expect financial proposals to be made by each party before the fdr hearing in a bid to resolve financial issues between us.
I put forward a proposal to my ex''s sol approx 3 weeks ago and as of yet i have had no response. Can anyone tell me what is a reasonable amount of time to expect a reply?
The FDR is listed to go ahead in approx 6/7 weeks time, therefore it leaves little time for negotiation when the other party will not co operate.
I am self repping and ex has sol.

Many thanks

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19 Aug 12 #350463 by maisymoos
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If no reply is received I think you have to assume it is not accepted. My ex was the same he didn''t bother until the day of the FDR and we didn''t agree hence went to Final Hearing!!

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19 Aug 12 #350465 by coasttocoast
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having been told by the judge at first hearing that she expects both sides to offer proposals to each other will it be frowned upon by the judge that ex has not complied with the judge''s instruction?

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19 Aug 12 #350468 by spooky
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Do not be at all surprised if you receive his offer a few days before FDR or even the morning of the hearing.

There is a lot of game playing involved in these matters and as a LIPthey may be ramping up your anxiety levels.

Keep calm, do everything you need to do and sit tight and wait.

Yes, this kind of behaviour is frowned upon and wastes your and the court''s time.

If your are the Petitioner and you are not ready/ happy with all the information received you can adjourn the hearing or even go in and say that there has been no offer received from the other side. The FDR then turns into another Directions hearing or will be relisted to Final Hearing.

A slightly shirty letter to his solicitor a week before saying that you will be seeking a cost order usually stirs them into some action, let''s hope it doesn''t come to that.

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