I would be happy to settle with ex on this offer but i feel she wants to take it further and attend FDR. I feel i can offer no more as there is no more to offer. Can i make the same offer as an "open offer" to settle at or after the FDR?
I would say yes keep the negotiation open and honest, keep the offer on the table and in any case you will have a better indication when you reach the FDR, the judge may well make a direction as to what is reasonable, hopefully not far away or the same as what you are offering.
It is hard to look beyond FDR when you aren''t even there yet.
Once i get to fdr which is imminent, if the judge indicates that my offer is more than fair and ex still declines this proposal and wishes to take it to final hearing, am i then ok to put forward a lower offer as an open offer or do i have to maintain the previous unaccepted higher one?
I think if you get to the FDR and the judge indicates that your offer is a reasonable one and then your other half does not comply or you go off on a tangent and think about a less reasonable offer that both of you are going to be penalised in emotion and cost.
Hopefully the judge at the FDR will agree with you, if he does agree to his Directions and if you see no reason to dispute it pay out - so rescind and agree with the judge. It would take a very strong legal team to overturn not only a decision by an FDR judge but also total complience by the reasonable party in divorce.
What ever do not let matters run on unless you are sure that finances dictate that you cannot do other than contest, a few thousand pounds is no reason to stand out - it may be that the FDR judge stands out on a few points - work out in your own mind what that means to you both emotionally and financially. life is short remember that.