sunday lunch, who told you only the pension accrued during the marriage will be taken into consideration and how long have you been separated?
Pensions and equity aren''t treated in the same way. In England & Wales when separation was just a year or so it''s likely the value of all the pension fund would be shared. If the separation is longer then only the pension accrued during the marriage is likely to be shared as the pension has increased because of the efforts of pension holder alone during the separation.
Sundaylunch, I agree with Fiona. How much of the pension is taken into account is something that is up for debate in England and Wales. In my own divorce I managed to protect the five years of my pension post-separation but not the thirteen years before we got together. However, he had quite a reasonable pension of his own and had continued to pay into it throughout the marriage. So if your ex''s solicitor is arguing that the years since separation won''t count you can argue against that.
Cliasmol7, I understand that you are wary of solicitors, but I agree with the others that you really need to use one. Your mental health, the amount of money involved and the fact that your ex is both hiding money and trying to do you out of your fair share all point to the need for a really good and experienced solicitor. You need someone who has the skills and experience of how the law works to make sure you interests are taken into account and that your health is properly presented and evidenced. You also need someone to protect you from your ex''s excesses as he is clearly vindictive.
You wouldn''t necessarily need to use someone really local to you - you could go to your nearest largest town or city if necessary.
Many thanks for your response.
Solicitor mark 1 was "top " most expensive solicitor in the town, she lasted less than a week as was us and a rip off merchant.
I am now using a firm 30 miles away, only because when I was @ work had dealings with this girls partner, who is not a family solicitor.
Solicitor mark 2 is a lovely lady, and I need that @moment as so terribly upset, she said that there was no value in seeing her again until I had some sort of financial disclosure from husband,
Many thanks,be it that my GP is lovely, I would agree that specialised medical evidence is required.
What I plan to do is get 2 medical reports, one from my former NHS Psych, who specialises in BPAD, retired a couple of years ago, and now works @Priory.
A second report from current treating NHS Psych, both these blokes will say the same things, but will sound very different, as they have very different personalities.
Do you think that the above will do ?