Mediation - Finance

Hi
I will like to go for mediation for sorting out finance matter.
My husband in his Ancially relief application has said we have been to mediation but thats a lie, as we havent ever been to mediation.
Due to finance constraint I am self repreenting, I am happy to give my husband his equal share and be done with divorce and move on.
His solicitor is GREAT WHITE SHARK, as there was domestic violence non-mol order on him, and he counter filed for harrassment, though everything is sorted now coz I accepted his undertaking and gave cross undertaking, is it possible to approach court directly that I want MEDIATION first, where we can discuss with the mediator independently, like that I dont have to see him, and if mediation breaks down then we can try the other route i.e. back to his solicitor.??

Can anyone please advice?

any inputs please ??

Hi

All you need to do is ring mediation and sort out an appointment.

How far are you into Ancillary relief?

your ex would have had to submit a form LM1 with the application which is issued by mediation.

I did ring them but they said if ex is not going to co-operate and since there is dometsic violence, it will be difficult to go for mediation.

I want to approach court asking them to give a go ahead and asking my ex to attend mediation, we can go independently. So that we can both avoid seeing eachother?

Is that possible?

We ahve to exchange form E on 12 Nov 2012

From what you''ve said it probably wouldn''t work. Don''t worry. I m in a similiar position but I went to mediation which failed as ex was so aggressive the mediator stopped it.

You are now going down court route, don''t be put off even if you are self repping. His solicitors are still going to have to negotiate with you and will be told by judge at first appointment. Stay strong. Post on here. Just know your facts. They will try be clever but just play the game.

Thanks Leanng, is there any way, I can request court to direct my ex to attend mediation?

His solicitor has falsely written that we have already attended mediation in the form, which is a lie

I don''t honestly know.

From what you are saying do you really need to go to Mediation if you are willing to give him his equal share.