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Financial Settlement needed - can't afford court

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27 Jul 17 #494900 by LittleSeaHorse
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I agree with the others!

You know you can't afford to fight this with legal help through the courts. But your husband also knows this. He will use this to his favour and assume a stronger negotiating position because he knows court isn't an option for you and he has you backed into a corner!


You are quite correct I think ! He probably thinks he can just bleed me dry financially (he has seen my form E) and just sit and wait dragging things out until I run out of money.
I can't see why he has put such blatant untruths on his form E, unless he thought it doesn't matter as I can't do anything about it. :unsure:
He has stated he is paying £950 a month in rent to his girlfriend but not according to his attached bank statements he isn't...

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27 Jul 17 #494901 by Bubblegum11
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Pluck up some courage then and show him you will not let him win just because you are financially weaker and unable to afford lawyers.

(NB. I say this based on your solicitors advice that you should start court proceedings)

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27 Jul 17 #494906 by LittleSeaHorse
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I assume she is thinking along your lines.
As my ex was quite blatant and cheeky on his form E, she probably thinks negotiating won't bring any results as he is not taking it very serious at all.
Starting court proceedings would potentially light a small flame under his behind

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25 Nov 17 #497824 by LittleSeaHorse
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We have now gone as far as making a settlement proposal to each other.
My solicitor has advised to reject his and we have subsequently made a counter proposal.
My solicitor costs so far are just under 2K including VAT.
We assume my Ex will also equally reject our counter proposal, but we haven't heard yet.
At that point I will ask my solicitor to prepare the court form A (?) and submit it to court.
I have done the MIAM.
After that I will let the solicitor go as I cannot afford to pay anymore. My family will pay for the court fee of £255.

Now my question: we have already exchanged form E voluntarily and asked each other some questions.

When the court process starts, will we have to do the form E exchange again and start from the beginning, or does the court process start where we are stuck (i.e. come to an agreement on the three points where it will take a judge to decide) ?

Would anybody know what will happen next ?

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