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28 Nov 17 #497870 by Lipstickandlollipops
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I have had the divorce petition since July but not signed it yet. I have seen a solicitor who suggested I instigate mediation to get an idea of how ex was going to play it, as he may consider representing me and taking his fees from the settlement.
Ex has recently inherited approximately £350,000 in property and cash, Im still in the FMH with our adult son and his pregnant girlfriend.

I didn't qualify for legal aid for mediation but wrote to his solicitor asking if he would cover the cost for that as I don't have any disposable income.
The reply I received ignored my question but asked me to sign and return the petition.
I can't afford representation, he can.
I know the ex will make it as difficult for me as possible despite him being the one to leave for someone else, so I am expecting a fight.

Together 23 yrs, married for 15
Me 56
Him 54
I earn £17,500 full time
Him no idea (usually cash work)
Me pension pennies
Him has one, but not paid in since married
FMH Value 220,000 interest only
Balance owing 190,000 (10 yrs remaining)
Circa £50,000 charging order secured on FMH in his sole name.

I understand I'm not automatically entitled to any of the inheritance, will I have a 'need' as I understand this is what it will come down to in the end for it to be considered. I could potentially be homeless in 10 years time when the mortgage term ends at the age of 67, unless I can pay a chunk off and reduce it over the next 10 years.

Any thoughts or suggestions would be really helpful
Thank you

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