I accepted an offer, so long as it was drawn up quickly by the exes solicitor.
One arrrived about two weeks later. There were spelling mistakes and missing out completely what they had offered originally.
My solicitor wrote back with the corrections.
This is now 6 weeks later.
How do I get them to speed up?
At this rate I may as well just hold on for the final hearing in 6 weeks time and get a much fairer amount.
His solicitors are the most useless people ever.
They cannot even spell the names correctly.
They muddled up applicant and respondent.
I’m sure I could have written a better one myself.
I only agreed if it was done quickly, and would all be sorted and paid before the FH. As it’s taking so long I might as well just go to the final hearing and get a much nearer to half amount.
Just one more example, I'm afraid (there have been many for me) that agreeing to something in the hope of your ex doing something is an exercise in futility and aggravation. I agreed to all kinds of things, the Consent Order took forever, he ratted on all kinds of things, and now that we have a consent order he ignores it anyway.
I guess he takes the attitude 'what's she going to do about it?' and sadly, this is all too common, especially where one is divorcing someone who can manipulate their own affairs (ie, significantly, is not an employee).
My ex used to say 'possession is nine tenths of the law' and it certainly seems to be the maxim he lives by.
Problem is, what can you do but wait? Refuse to sign if it suits you if the document is produced before the trial. Or go to trial. It brings up again the feelings of impotent rage that I remember so well.
Try not to let it get to you - easier said than done, I know - and take some comfort from the fact that at least you have an alternative method of resolution looming. Good luck!
Thanks, yeah that’s exactly how it is. It still seems to be the power and control trip....I have everything, you are getting nothing, then finds out he has to give me something, so likes to delay and prolong everything to show he is in charge of me still.
Not for much longer
I will be free