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Here we go: FDR

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10 May 18 #501510 by scargman
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The soon to be ex earns £100,000 / year from a company of which I am a 50% share holder. My PAYE salary is £32,000. We have adult children, so they don't figure in the equation. She keeps making offers that are absurd, which take a 50/50 approach to our capital and pensions even though she has £500,000 mortgage capacity and I have £26,000.

Her latest offer:
I get £160k but, to even up the pots, she takes 41% of my pension when, at most she is entitled to only 20% by virtue of the length of our marriage. This would leave me unable to retire whilst she sits back and earns more than three times my income from a company I helped to establish.

My counter offer:
£170K towards a house, £30K for my shares and £300 / month for three years. She takes over the mortgage on the FMH and gets 14% of my pension. She has rejected this and we go to an FDR in three weeks.

Has anyone had a similar case of a wide disparity between income and future earning potential plus a stubborn spouse? If so, how did it go at the FDR?

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