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Ex offering to make mortgage payments

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10 Nov 18 #504798 by Lipstickandlollipops
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Nothing much has happened regarding divorce and any kind of settlement.
Ex and myself don't have any contact, we're at a bit of a stalemate, I won't sign divorce paper (2 yrs seperated, with concent) unless he agrees a settlement, or at least begins to negotiate.
I have head from our son today that his dad has offered to make the monthly mortgage payments (to help me out) and because he wants to borrow some money to build some houses and will need a good credit rating.
We've been seperated nearly 4 years and during that time I've managed on my own, albeit it's been a struggle and I'm in debt.
Ex has inherited post seperation and is financially okay, but he's still on the mortgage of the FMH, hence why he can't risk me not keeping up with the payments.
Should I be wary about this offer, or bite his hand off and be able to pay my bills.
Just to add, our son, his gf and their baby live in the FMH with me and don't contribute much financially, so in ex's eyes he's doing it for them, not me.
Thoughts anyone?

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11 Nov 18 #504806 by hadenoughnow
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Him paying demonstrates that you have a need and he has the means to pay. This could strengthen any case for spousal maintenance.


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11 Nov 18 #504807 by Lipstickandlollipops
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That's good to hear, both of which are true.
Thank you for giving me a bit of hope that I may be able to live a bit in the future, it's been a massive struggle.

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