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  • AOletsgo
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15 Jul 19 #508537 by AOletsgo
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I will try to be as detailed as possible, so that i can be advised accordingly.

i am 43 year old woman, with 3 children, 2 dependant. one living at home but is now 19 and working. then i have a 14 YO, and a 8 YO.

As a result of my marriage break down i lost my job, (i worked for my ex) so now i am on benefits all in i receive £1150 a month universal credit, child benefit, and CMS, for me and 2 children. i am still in the family home and my ex pays the mortgage (210 per month) plus he pays £330 child maintenance, which is included in the above amount. we have now been seperated for 2.5 years and in tht time i have been fighting for a financial order. i have been through trying to work it out between us, the mediation, then solicitors. now my ex as applied to court.

info about my ex. he has 40% shares in a business i helped set up 12 years ago. i gave up a good job as a civil servant to do this. his earnings per month are £2900. out of this he pays CMS £330 and £210 mortgage. He claims to live at home with his parents rent free, and he has a brand new mercedeze company car. it has now been exposed that he is in fact living with the woman he had an affair with before we seperated. And she is now due to have his baby next week!!!!!

i feel my ex intentionally dragged out this process knowing they were trying for a baby and for the 9 months she was pregnant so that he could use the child as a dependant and so reduce the amount i would likly get.

can ANYONE help with advice? i am seeing a solicitor and i get legal aid, but she seems to sit on the fence and wont say one way or another what the likley out come is going to be.

i just want to know one way or another, will i have to sell our family home? will i be awarde spousal support? etc. its been a long 2.5 years, i am so stressed and angry, as i feel i cant move on untill this is resolved. im constantly worried im going to loose our home. whilst he lives his best life, holidays fancy clothes restaurants weekends away etc.

any advice will be most welcome.

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16 Jul 19 #508546 by Rickoshea
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Not sure anyone would have a baby and drag out a divorce to save £9 per week

In terms of spousal support it looks unlikely given you were working until the split, previously worked as a civil servant but seemingly haven't had a job since then. You will be expected to maximise your income and presumably you don't need retraining if you were working up until relatively recently. What have you done about obtaining work?

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