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Fraud by False Representation?

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27 Jul 19 #508740 by hadenoughnow
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He will have to see any evidence you are proposing to put forward - everything you want to rely on as evidence has to be served on the other side.

If you are represented you should let your solicitor deal with this. If your ex is indeed a delusional narcissist he is unlikely to heed any personal warnings. You could run the risk of being accused of blackmail.

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27 Jul 19 #508741 by TammyJ
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Thanks--I never considered that (risk of accusation of blackmail).

I'll hold my counsel, so, and perhaps tattoo onto my arm "No good deed goes unpunished" because that has been the experience of the past couple of years.

I'll leave it to my solicitor to handle and to his solicitor to bring home to him the deep sh1t he has landed himself in.

By the way, "had enough now" is precisely how I feel at this stage ... I notified him months before that he was sailing close to the wind but have encountered the classic response of the deluded/narcissist/fantasist: Ignore. Deny. Lie. Deny the Lie. Repeat.

As for the evidence, this is all referenced in the AR affidavit and will be shared at the appropriate time. And it's crystal clear--I have no idea how a defence might be constructed short of some kind of mental health plea which will nonetheless have to acknowledge responsibility, albeit "diminished" responsibility.

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30 Jul 19 #508805 by TammyJ
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One (late) question: Given that my solicitor will have seen all the evidence and know that it is evidence of a crime under the Fraud Act, won't my solicitor have an obligation to report it? Or can my solicitor turn a blind eye to it (without consequences)??

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30 Jul 19 #508806 by Under60
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From my experience concentrate on the current battle.
Get what you need from divorce settlement, and worry about reporting things later.
Just get it in a Consent Order what you require monetary wise and then take up other stuff later as/if needed.
In my position I just needed a roof over our heads, having dealt with the totally unreasonable narcissist psycho.
I learnt to realise to just shut the door. You will never “Win” against them, so get what YOU need, get sorted, then if you think it’s right to persue your other grievances do so.
I learnt through my years of hell that if dealing with the unreasonable there is no logic in their thinking.
Good luck....it’s a nightmare, but Karma will play out eventually :)

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16 Aug 19 #509111 by TammyJ
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hadenoughnow wrote:

The problem is that this seems to be a matter of interpretation of the law. It has been interpreted differently by two different lawyers.

His solicitor is going to use anything that supports his case. You will do the same.

Hadenoughnow


Update: X2B's solicitor received AR Affidavit last week. The following day X2B emails me and claims to be seeking new counsel. Looks like X2B's solicitor cut him loose when he found how his client was playing him for a fool all along. Reassuring to find some solicitor's will draw limits to what they will tolerate from client's and send them packing when they are shown to be "less than honest". Though I wonder what chance there will be of X2B finding new representation if reasons for change are known to prospective solicitor.

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