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verbal abuse during negotiation

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26 Feb 21 #515913 by Alaska1954
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This is the scenario: W has applied to court for financial remedy, currently waiting for 1st appointment in April. H has solicitor who has written to W outling a possible settlement. W is LIP and has replied rejecting the proposal but offering one of her own. No response from solicitor as yet but H has sent abusive text and phone messages (with regard to the content of W offer). There is a long history of verbal abuse/control from H though nothing physical. Question is, does W just ignore the abuse? she has done so far - obviously anxious to settle out of court...but what can she do if anything at this stage....any help appreciated.

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27 Feb 21 #515917 by hadenoughnow
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If H has a solicitor, you should suggest they ask their client to desist from contacting you directly. If there are multiple abusive messages you could call the police non emergency line to discuss. You could also consider a non molestation order if he persists.

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27 Feb 21 #515919 by Alaska1954
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Thank you for your response; yes, those options do make sense. I am thinking that the letter recourse is probably going to be the most effective here. H solicitor will not be aware of what is going on. Appreciated as sometimes the mind wanders in these situations.......

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20 Mar 21 #516145 by Alaska1954
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Please accept apologies if this is not the correct place to post. The scenario I mentioned previously has seriously worsened. W did write to H solicitor to ask for contact to stop directly. Now H has twice sent adult son to W's house to insist she settles out of court with an offer W has already refused via H solicitor. The visits are intimidating and extremely abusive and son has threatened W with physical harm - W is understandably very upset and frightened, but W won't go to the police - advice urgent please!!!

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20 Mar 21 #516152 by notgettinganywherefast
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If W is being threatened or harrassed by a 3rd party the best course of action is to involve the police. Bar that, perhaps a civil order may be an option.

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20 Mar 21 #516153 by WYSPECIAL
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Son is an adult. You can’t blame H for sons unacceptable behaviour. Report it to the Police

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21 Mar 21 #516155 by Alaska1954
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Thank you for your advice - W knows she should report this but she is holding back...........

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