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Remote FDR - What to expect

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17 May 21 #516738 by Firstandlasttimer
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Hi all,

New to this but have used the forum to gain a lot of information about the whole divorce process so far, so thanks for all the support!

My partner is going through a very acrimonious divorce with the STBX claiming legal aid though the grounds of this are not being disclosed and seems very dodgy. Due to increasing costs, my partner is self-repping. They had the FDA (held on paper) in January, now the FDR is happening this week and due to Covid, will be held remotely.

Has anyone has a remote hearing? What happened and what can we expect? Is there anything we can do to be more prepared for this?

So many questions, so little time. Any help gratefully received!

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17 May 21 #516740 by fresh start
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I had my remote FDR in December
I sat anxiously waiting at my computer to be invited into the meeting

My ex was being represented by a solicitor and barrister ( I too was self representing) The legal team and judge could be seen on screen but my ex and myself were only heard not seen on the screen
The judge came on first to explain the process and that she had read through all the statements/case notes etc
His barrister put over my ex’s case and I was allowed time to have my say .
The judge then stated how she felt the case would go if we could not agree at this FDR
She then left the meeting and I had a conversation with his legal team ( my ex also left the meeting)
We then had some time out to think about things and another meeting with the judge was scheduled for later that afternoon
where we came to a conclusion.
However I have to say whilst my FDR was 8th Dec ...... I have only just on the 14th May received my Decree Absolute
I prepared by keeping everything to hand and had notes everywhere for reference - many pinned up on the wall in front of me

Mine went on for years - but the relief when it is over is amazing but was also stressful waiting for the Decree Absolute
Good luck to your partner - just get them to take their time answering questions and if any jargon/ not understanding -ask for clarification xx

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18 May 21 - 18 May 21 #516742 by Firstandlasttimer
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Thank you so much Fresh Start, that's really helpful and quite reassuring as he's quietly panicking about it! I'm glad yours reached a conclusion even if it did take all that time to get there; I hope you're able to celebrate it now!
Last edit: 18 May 21 by Firstandlasttimer. Reason: Putting poster's name

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21 Jun 21 #517039 by breakfree369
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I had my remote FDR in July 2020 via telephone. Both me and ex were LIPs. These are basically friendly negotiations where the judge will try and understand the positions of both the sides and get to find a middle ground to settle the case. The Judge will also give an indication to both parties of what might happen if it goes to Final Hearing. My Ex tried to get me to accept a rubbish offer of 35% of sale of properties, when I have the children with me!! But the judge said she will not get me to accept any offer, I did not agree to.
Keep documents of the court bundle handy in front of you and be clear about what you can and will not accept.
All the best!

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