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08 Mar 10 #190808 by Hiphop
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Hi

I am not working at the minute and hopefully my stbx will be out of the house and I have been looking for a job, a friend of mine said not to as it might affect my legal aid and also to wait and see how much money I will get from the stbx. I have looked on the entitled to site but not sure of what figures to put in as I was previously working part time and my stbx used the rest of my tax allowance for his buisness, I never seen the money from it that I was supposed to earn.

Can anyone tell me would it be best for me and the kids 11, 14 to try and get a job now either part or full time or should I wait till everything is sorted or at least till he leaves the house

Thanks

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11 Mar 10 #191340 by mike62
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Hiphop,

Do you need to work to get money, or is stbx still providing for all of you?

If you do, you might want to consider working part time and applying for Working Family Tax Credits.

Are you looking to leave the family home? Or is he looking to move out - If I remember rightly, he is swanning around as if nothing has happened.

It is not uncommon for unwilling or disbelieving soon to be ex's to try to exert control, bu switching off the money supply. If you had a bit coming in, it would certainly help you.

Let us know how you are getting on

Mike

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13 Mar 10 #191750 by Hiphop
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Hi Mike
sorry for not replying sooner, my laptop went away to be fixed and stbx let me use his old one, found out he had put something on it that let him see every web page I had been on, so I have changed passwords on important accounts from another comp and I have not been able to post anything incase he seen, I am using my daughters laptop she is back from uni for the weekend untill mine is back and then I will have to get it checked out also.

I am going to look for a part time job hopefully one that will work around school hours. He says he will keep on paying the bills.

He is making all the excuses about why he can not leave, no money, furniture, he has still not been to see a sol yet, he is really trying to hang on. I just want him gone so I can move foreward.

He is still acting like nothing has happenned.

I have decided to go straight for a divorce, have told him this and that he has to move out before the 6 mths are up, hopefully he will.

Hiphop

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23 Mar 10 #193961 by kitessurfer
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Hiya,
Sorry to hear about your situation. If it saves you any work, I've found this site to be the most helpful on the web to date. I've been researching nd posting about my seperation for some months on and off. I realise you are keen for the divorce, before x2b goes, make sure you know who will pitition and on what grounds, its obviously not 2 yr seperation. If he's hanging on then you may have to wait for 5 year seperation based on astranged 2bx. I'm no expert tho. If its unreasonable behaviour then usually you would agree what this is and how to word it all on the Petition etc. We've gone done the seperation agreement route . (A deed, although not legally binding), you MAY wish to do the same before he disapears just in case later the stories change etc. Search seperation agreement. Sorry I ramble on, maybe you researched this side already. tc.ty.

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09 Jun 10 #208248 by Hiphop
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I have got him out of the house now, not by his choice, and I have also started a job which is over 16 hrs a week so I can claim WTC. Things are getting better now for me, not sure what is going to happen now with maintenance from him but I will now be able to manage to pay the mortgage and bills by myself untill I can sell the house.

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