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24 Jun 10 #210898 by eyes on horizon
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He obviously doesn’t have a moral bone in his body and the kids will find that out soon enough.

I just want to add that when I was told pay up or no kiddies, it was when I was paying her £325 above what the csa recommended…I still probably spend near on that now on them when they are with me each month but at least I can do things with them now!

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24 Jun 10 #210900 by freshstart36
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(RANT WARNING)!
I only saw the light after one particular month, having a tearful phonecall from ex - 'no food', 'behind with bills', 'kids have no clothes' and after handing over my regular £500 worth of hard earned and borrowed cash, the full time employed stbx turned up four hours later to drop off the kids with her dressed to dixy in a new dress, shoes, highlighted hair and handbag ready to go out on the lash in Manchester!

I had just £8 on me to feed us that particular night. Was so pleased when she went to the CSA - her reason was 'cos I was being tight and 'not standing up to my responsibilities'. CSA assessment saved me £250 per month from that point. :)Sweet!

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24 Jun 10 #210905 by mumsty
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I hope it works out for you and things continue to improve

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24 Jun 10 #210913 by eyes on horizon
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a whole 8 quid! I have done dinner for 5 on less than 3.

i think i would find it less grating if she worked.

at the minute she pleads poverty. her mortgage is being paid by 4 lodgers plus she gets an additional 1250 off benefits PLUS my 400 a month.
oh ya and monkey boys JSA. oh and i suppose his profit from drug dealing.

yes yes all lodged with the police but they could care less.

its me thats the unfit parent, or at least thats what her excuse for stopping contact last year was AFTER she found out she couldnt get away with the money angle.

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24 Jun 10 #210918 by freshstart36
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This Post for mumsty.

If it's any consolation, I wish it was you I was divorcing! ;)

You seem so sensible and level headed, I'd love to have you as an ex! lol

Good luck peeps!

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24 Jun 10 #210924 by mumsty
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Thanks - I think!!!

Sometimes I feel like a mug though!

I do the right thing and end up penniless, he does what he likes and has everything.........except me!!

I'd rather be happy with the kids than lonely and rich!

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