He obviously doesn’t have a moral bone in his body and the kids will find that out soon enough.
I just want to add that when I was told pay up or no kiddies, it was when I was paying her £325 above what the csa recommended…I still probably spend near on that now on them when they are with me each month but at least I can do things with them now!
I only saw the light after one particular month, having a tearful phonecall from ex - 'no food', 'behind with bills', 'kids have no clothes' and after handing over my regular £500 worth of hard earned and borrowed cash, the full time employed stbx turned up four hours later to drop off the kids with her dressed to dixy in a new dress, shoes, highlighted hair and handbag ready to go out on the lash in Manchester!
I had just £8 on me to feed us that particular night. Was so pleased when she went to the CSA - her reason was 'cos I was being tight and 'not standing up to my responsibilities'. CSA assessment saved me £250 per month from that point. Sweet!
a whole 8 quid! I have done dinner for 5 on less than 3.
i think i would find it less grating if she worked.
at the minute she pleads poverty. her mortgage is being paid by 4 lodgers plus she gets an additional 1250 off benefits PLUS my 400 a month.
oh ya and monkey boys JSA. oh and i suppose his profit from drug dealing.
yes yes all lodged with the police but they could care less.
its me thats the unfit parent, or at least thats what her excuse for stopping contact last year was AFTER she found out she couldnt get away with the money angle.