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21 Oct 10 #230519 by cavalino
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Hi i was wondering before i go and dish the dirt so to speak on what my ex is up to.(and not sour grapes by the way)as i instigated the divorce.I am incensed as are many people and especialy in the current economic climate of benefit fraud and spongers getting money for nothing.
My ex paid me off and kept the house,she has a full time job .She recieves the higher rate of D.L.A and drives a new motability car.(She has a condition called fibromyalgia)We have a son who is in full time residentail care for his severe learning difficulties,she also gets high rate D.L.A for him even though he never stays with her or goes home.
She also gets a ILA grant if she does go and have him home for a few hours,and very sure she may be claiming every possible benefit to help with the costs of living.My 19 year old daughter lives at home with her and is at college and has a work placement.
My ex,s brother has just been let out of prison and may be lodging with her also.
Main reason i suspect she is commiting fraud is i cannot work out how she can-Pay high mortgage-life cover-gas -elec-phone -sky tv-insurances-food and still spend a fortune on the garden as i saw when i did a drive by.Shall i let the fraud investigers sort it?

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21 Oct 10 #230523 by Soldierbluenomore
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I would leave well alone if you value your relationship with your kids.
She will get cought sooner or later.;)

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21 Oct 10 #230524 by Kimmi
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Considering that this morning you paid the outstanding amount owed via the CSA and then you have a letter stating that you money for over paid Tax Credit, are you sure that wanting to grass your ex up is not sour grapes??

If she is defrauding the system, she will be caught.
Even though they are old enough to be classed as adults, your children will suffer if you grass their mum up. And honestly, it comes across as spiteful.

Hope you can work this one out


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21 Oct 10 #230580 by Emma6607
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Reporting a suspected benefit fraud is one of the main ways investigators get their referrals. Sure there are other ways but if you genuinely believe she is acting illegally then it will take a few minutes for them to check the records and establish the facts.DLA is a not a means tested benefit so any earnings she receives would have no impact and so as long as there were no claims to JSA/ESA or IB/IS they wouldn't even contact her and she would be none the wiser. It may well be that she had a bonus from work and paid for the garden.

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21 Oct 10 #230582 by WhiteRose
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Apart from the other comments made - unless you have something concrete - ie. You know someone is receiving JSA but also working, it does appear to be sour grapes from the comments you made.

Her garden could have been done by someone at mates-rates or done cheaply/free by a kind neighbour.

Try to let go of what she's doing or is up to and focus on you.


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21 Oct 10 #230595 by Lostboy67
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What do you get out of this ? Some revenge maybe but little else, just leave it....really don't go there..


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22 Oct 10 #230622 by cavalino
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Ok points taken thank you,but i still need to clarify if it is right that she is getting D.L.A fr a child who is in full time care for special needs even though she does not have him at home at all.

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