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28 Oct 10 #231637 by feelfoolish
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Hi

I haven't posted for some time as thankfully mine and my partners divorces and ancilliary relief cases are finally over.

I have to sympathise with Cavalino both myself and my partner have Ex's who are cheating the system - what nobody has mentioned on here is the fact that due to these benefits (and i refer to those being claimed by people that don't merit them) they are able to claim legal aid to allow them to vent their anger and bitterness!! My legal costs were close to 10k in the end for my ex to walk away with 5.6k which in the end he had to pay towards his legal bill - he would never have continued to court if he had to pay his full costs. He is now of to Thailand again for 3 months to see out the cold winter whilst i go to work and contribute with my taxes to do this. My partners legal bill was 18k and his Ex's about 10k she got her property repossesed so was unable to pay back hers as she now has nothing to pay from - she now lives in a rented property in a very affluent area with her own en suite and dressing room all being paid for by the state.

I think that a lot of the responses are harsh on Cavolino and you must understand that the wish to question or report someones eligibility for these benefits is not always out of bitterness but pure frustration.

I lived with my husband for quite a while and when i was early into the relationship found out that he was claiming sickness benefit and working cash in hand - i was not at all happy with it and as i worked in recruitment got him into work which he managed to do for a number of years - as soon as we seperated he played the sick card immediately and has been there ever since. My partners X has no trouble whatsover running her own spray tan business (for which i have sent a business card to the social) or socialising and managing to rock and roll brilliantly every week she also drives a sports like car on mobility i presume to aid her beautician image - I AM NOT BITTER!!! i am trying to make a point that whilst this site is used to gain very useful information, help and support we shouldn't critise people!!

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29 Oct 10 #231764 by cavalino
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Thank you for your support.

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29 Oct 10 #231780 by feelfoolish
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You're welcome and good luck in what ever you decide - i would advise though that despite me handing over very damning evidence on both X's they Benefits Agency seemed to totally ignore so you would perhaps be wasting your time. I am hoping that now with the changes that David Cameron proposes to make to the Benefits system their wings will be clipped.

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29 Oct 10 #231793 by chamberlain
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TO CAVALINO - In my opinion I cannot see anything wrong with requesting the benefits agency to investigate your ex's claim for any benefit and supply your reasons for doing so. If I am correct there is a freely available telephone line for this purpose and the caller is not required to give their details. If someone does not meet the criteria to have a benefit paid to them, they should not receive it.

This is a subject very close to my heart as my ex continued to pay the mortgage and endowment policy when he left me and my three children. As these were both in joint names, I was not entitled to any financial help from the state as 50% of these payments was regarded as my income which when added to the child benefit I received took me above the income support level. I was not working at the time as my children were very small and was expected to pay for food, clothes, utility bills etc etc out of child benefit only. I worked for 18 years before leaving the job market to have my family and paid tax and national insurance contributions out of my earnings only to find that when I needed help the door was shut in my face.

Suspected benefit fraud should be investigated and if found to be just that i.e. fraud, dealt with appropriately.

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