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09 May 12 #329561 by Pondering the future
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I want to separate from my husband.
he is in the forces and I want a different life. We have only been married for 6 months. Its military life I don''t like and want to be able to pursue a degree. its a shame - we tried it but the life if not for me. I hate it.

My question is.. If I applied to uni and was living on my own with my daughter ( from a previous relationship) would I be treated as a single person? I f I chose to leave would I be entitled to apply for bursaries, housing benefit as a single person. I want to support my self in the future and have a good job.

Would we need to do the legal separation thing? It seems a wast of money to me if we are only going to get divorced in the future.

Do I still class my self as married? I don''t want anything from him. We ahve not been married for long and whats his is his.

Thanks

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10 May 12 #329599 by rubytuesday
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Welcome to Wikivorce.

Military life is hard - my father was in the RAF, and its a very different way of life to civilian life. It does take time to adjust to military life, and 6 months isn''t that long to give yourself time to "bed in".

As you have only been married for 6 months, you can''t begin divorce proceedings until you have been married for 12 months - there is no legal separation.

Do you love your husband? If so, then perhaps its worth trying to work this out, perhaps with help from the Family Liaison Officer attached to the base where your husband is stationed. It would still be possible to study while being married - there are distance courses which are excellent.

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10 May 12 #329856 by Pondering the future
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Thanks. I was hesitant previously and though I love him I need more than military life. I know we wouldn''t be able to afford for me to study for three years and couldn''t pay the tuition fees. Seems awful and very shallow of me but I know I need to do this for my own self esteem. We should have waited to get married. he kind of understands. He is a good man and knows I am not happy.

Thanks for your reply. Maybe we won''t get divorced maybe a separation is best till I am able to achieve something for me.

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10 May 12 #329857 by sillywoman
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Please reconsider. You can always do a degree with the Open University - thats how I got my degree.

You love him, he loves you - give it a go!

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10 May 12 #329859 by Pondering the future
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Not the degree I Want to do unfortunately. Podiatry. No OU am afraid.

Thanks though.

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