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He''s cleared out the bank

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20 Jun 16 #480149 by Jacmum1
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Just when you thought he couldn''t do anything more to hurt you he''s decided he needs somewhere to live and has cleared out our joint account, completely. No thought of our children and how we are supposed to manage. I''ve never sworn so much. How could he. It makes it easier to hate him. I hope this feeling lasts.

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20 Jun 16 #480150 by Trolly Dolly
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Yep been there. And discovered he''d been draining the savings account of hundreds of thousands of pounds since 2010 and there was nothing in there even though the week before we separated he lied and told me there was X amount in there. Don''t be surprised by anything.

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20 Jun 16 #480151 by Bubblegum11
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Oh no, he was quick off the mark. Shame you didn''t get the account frozen in time. My ex left me high and dry, took the car keys and even threw me out of the family home. I was luck in that I had family to support me and help me get back on my feet. I would still freeze the account to make sure it can''t become overdrawn. Can you put in a claim for child maintenance with the CMS? If you get tax credits, tell them that you need to claim as a single parent, this may change how much you get.

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20 Jun 16 #480152 by Jacmum1
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Wasn''t he just. The whole day has been taken up calling around. Accounts now frozen but too late. Trying to get it all in hand but it''s impossible. Nothing will get paid this month. I don''t even have an address for him to send him stuff asking him to pay. What a loser.

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20 Jun 16 #480153 by hadenoughnow
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It is a small comfort but at least hopefully that means he won''t try to come back. You can start to make your home a calm safe space for you and the children.

Is he working? He should be paying child support.

Also do get in a claim for tax credits as a single parent asap. They can backdate it up to 3 months.


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20 Jun 16 #480154 by Jacmum1
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Hi there. Thanks for all of the above. Yes, he is ''working'' but is signed off sick again. The council are sending me tax credit forms. They see really helpful.
My girls both said yesterday that the house is calmer without him and they felt happier. And it is. If he wasn''t sending them pathetic texts all the time it would be even better. How can he say love you, miss you to then when he''s just taken their food and roof money!!! What a joker.

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20 Jun 16 #480155 by Bubblegum11
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What a loser indeed!
Well at least any sympathy you might have felt will now be well and truely gone. It''s hard to make all the adjustments when you are juggling a job and kids. make a list of all the things you need to do, people you need to notify etc etc. And tick them off as you go. Try to prioritise what needs to be paid, I.e. Mortgage, school dinners, petrol, council tax etc etc. if there are bills/ commitments you can not make until CM and tax credits are sorted speak to the service provider and make them aware of the situation.

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