I'm now divorced which cost a lot in solicitors fees,time & heartache, to cut a long story shorter my ex dragged it out after landing herself in 29k of debt,hid it all from me and the kids! We went to court where she attempted to say the debt was all mine(even tho she'd put it in her name!).She removed all property from the house(whilst I was away), managed to get the equity from the house and a lump sum from my pension in the divorce.
My question is, if she owed 29k to the iva shouldn't she have payed that to the IVA company on receiving the settlement? Can I legally give them proof (court settlement docs)? And would it make a difference as she's going to use it for a deposit on a 4 bed with new partner.
Thanks in advance.
Welcome to wikivorce. Is the IVA in joint names or just her name?
If it is her name alone then surely this is her problem?
Does she have the children with her or do you? What ages are they? I am not sure of the position re IVA but I know lump sums paid on divorce don't affect benefits if they are used within a certain time to buy a home. If the children are under 18, providing a place for them to live or at least stay would be seen as a priority.
After a long drawn out divorce, what would you gain by taking the kind of action you describe? Surely it is time to look forward and not prolong the (probably justifiable) bitterness and anger that you feel.
Hi and thanks for the reply
The Iva was in her sole name as I knew nothing of the debt until divorce proceedings, £14k was benefit fraud as apparently I'd not been living in my own home for nearly 4 years ! So that hopefully gives you a heads up to the kind of person were dealing with!
I have my kids (10/14yo) 50/50 and their mother already has a home with them. I'm left with a small pension and a house that's now worth nothing and will have to sell and downsize.
So to answer, yes I'm trying to look forward but she owes that money and it should be paid back regardless imo.
Yes I made sure I had a Clean Break order and yes the house is in my sole name but I'm unable to keep up the increased payments for long hence the need to sell.
Your both right I need to focus on my current situation and move on, I just don't like being called a lier and made out to be a theif by my ex when throughout this nightmare I've done nothing wrong.