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Is the value of her clothes etc taken into account

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28 Jan 08 #12143 by robmcd
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Do the assets that get shared include things that may be obvioulsy one partners or the other?

For example, x2b has spend tens of thousands on clothes, shoes, CDs, ornaments etc. for the house which I don't want but when totalled in value will be significant.

She also has jewellery, some of which she had before the marriage, some of whihc I bought her.

10 years married, together for 13, 2 children 3 and 6.

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28 Jan 08 #12145 by mike62
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Rob,
Horrible as it is, I was advised by my sol to catalogue everything of my wife's and give it an estimated value. Like you, my wife was no stranger to the clothes shops, jewelry etc.
Worse still is when you look down the list and realize just how much of the family budget has been squandered.
106 pairs of shoes, 16 winter coats, 46 pairs of trousers :ohmy:....The list goes on and on
It isn't nice at all.
Mike

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29 Jan 08 #12252 by Fiona
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I must be doing something wrong, I hate clutter and own 3 pairs of shoes and one winter coat I've had for over 10 years.

Each party generally keeps their own personal possessions (unless needs dictate that valuable goods should be sold or transferred to the other spouse). There is normally a standard clause along the lines that the goods are retained by the person in whose possession they are in at the time of the Consent Order, and couples tend to agree direct the division of their CD collection etc, as it is disproportionate cost wise to involve solicitors. The value of personal possessions is usually only a small fraction of the purchase price.

In our case my ex insisted on listening to vinyl records and he took them all with him, along with the record player etc, and I kept the TV which broke down shortly afterwards. As I didn't tell anyone (apart from my lawyer and obviously the children) we had separated for well over a year the only person who knew was the man in the local specialist folk CD shop where I went to start my own music library. To my embarrassment every time I went in the shop he started singing the song about breaking up and sharing the record collection!

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29 Jan 08 #12260 by Tinny
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Snap Fiona. Somehow I must have missed the collecting shoes gene. I didnt even get all of those back either....think there must have been a bonfire along the way getting rid of some of my clothing.

I wish I had a catalogue of my personal items though because I definately didnt get them back!

Mike, 106 pairs of shoes,16 winter coats, 46 pairs of trousers... how big was her wardrobe/wardrobes??? :ohmy:

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29 Jan 08 #12265 by mike62
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7 doubles, plus 4 chests of drawers......:unsure:

I got one double! :woohoo:

Mike

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29 Jan 08 #12266 by Angel557
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A women can never have too many shoes.:cheer:

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29 Jan 08 #12269 by Tinny
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7 doubles Mike, blimey. Lucky you lived in a hotel, most people wouldnt have room for 7 doubles!

I really am doing something wrong! Mum always said when I went shopping I didnt buy for myself only Ex and the kids...maybe she had something there. I like to look good but am hopeless when it comes to buying for me.

Help. Anyone any shopping tips. I need to catch up on Mikes Ex! ;)Only joking! Or am I?? :silly:

Rob, sorry we have taken ove your post.

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