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04 Mar 08 #15726 by ijgoulds
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It is always the other way round. Any guys in my situation?. I have been looking after the teenagers for the last 7 years. I am 5 years away from the normal retirement age but she is a high income earner. Am just starting the divorce process and have already been given a solictors' invoice which I can't yet pay.

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04 Mar 08 #15740 by LittleMrMike
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I think you need to speak to your solicitor about this.

Are you entitled to Legal aid ? Try the calculator on the CLS website.

If your wife is a high earner she may have substantial assets
and you may get enough to pay the bill out of that. I think it's called a Sears Tooth agreement after the firm that invented it.

I believe it has been known for an applicant for spousal maintenance to ask for interim maintenance including an element for legal fees.

Can't really comment without knowing more ; I'd have a talk to your solicitor.


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04 Mar 08 #15783 by Fiona
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I know a number of fathers who are/have been the main career for teenage children, but I must admit they all work. One blogger on this site, nowitsmylife, I believe is in a similar situation. As far as the finances are concerned the law treats people in similar circumstances in the same way regardless of gender.

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