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Fair Settlement Figure

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04 May 12 #328383 by donkler
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Hi, I wonder if anyone can shine any light on this situation please?

Pretty straight forward.

No Children
Married 3 yrs this month
1 year co-habit

I purchased house from my previous house sale
and all furniture in it

My wife paid for our leisure time, holidays etc.....

I have offered £5,000 for her to P**s off, her sols have pointed out all sorts of lies shes told them and have asked for £10,000

What is a fair figure, I understand there are no rules here.

Any questions please ask, the house is up for £185,000 which is fair she reckons its worth £200,000 (maybe 2 years ago).

I have no savings, an endownmwent currently worth £14250.

She it seems, is still seeing her boss and being funded by him (probable millionaire)

I know its all a game od poker

Any pointers please Wikis ? xx

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04 May 12 #328387 by donkler
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Supposue also I should ask will solicitors play us off against each other to make some £££''s

I do also have a few pensions but quite minimal

Thank you

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04 May 12 #328398 by maisymoos
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Its a short marriage with no children, so it would often be a case of you take out what you put in.


Can you afford an additional £5K? if you can it may be worth it to avoid wracking up solicitors costs, or perhaps a starting point would be to meet them half way?

What do others think?

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04 May 12 #328400 by donkler
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Im thinking similar

she started off asking for £15K, thing is she bought bugger all in, granted she paid for some stuff whilst married, but paid no bills so fairly equal.

Can I say to her "I will give you the £10k but leave the house NOW, and do no damage to any goods" ?? I am afraid she will do some sort of damage to the property, I am in the process of removing all my personal property.

Thank you Maisymoos

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04 May 12 #328406 by Shoegirl
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If she moved from 15k to 10k in one movement then 10k won''t be her final position. I''d settle it for less. Every penny you can save is money in your pocket not hers.

Think about your tactics don''t just give her what she wants not yet.

Sorry I negotiate for a living can you tell :laugh:

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04 May 12 #328415 by donkler
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She went from £15 - £11k straight away, then to £8 eventually, then went to a solicitor because I wouldn''t budge from £5, and now suddenly seeks £10.

Think I will meet her at £7 and pay her solicitors fees (£450)

My sol said its like a ganme of poker, now I can see why, I wonder if shes bluffing. :S

If shes being funded then she wont be bluffing, I cant find out of shes still seeing him or not, I phoned their work and hes long term sick (Bipolar) if shes not bluffing I wonder how shes funding solicitors and possibly court as she has no money...

How much is court please?

agggghhhhh

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04 May 12 #328419 by Shoegirl
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Sorry did I read right that OM is off long term sick because he is bi polar?

It''s not a great time for them to start a life together then is it?

Not your concern on the mess she is now in I guess :)Yep 7.5k would seem right to me.

She''s bluffing no sol will advise court over these sums. I had more money to fight over that your case similar circumtances short marriage no kids. My sol said there was not enough to fight over so court was never an option for either of us.

My sol said at least 20k for court so she would be mad to spend 20k to fight over 10k.

I just sat in a room with my Stbx and amicably agreed the division of money. I then told sol what we agreed and the order was drawn up. No negotiations via sols as this costs ££££s

Good luck

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