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20 Jun 12 #337816 by Craig4002
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We lived together for 6 years, married for 2. She was a teacher. I paid for her to become a psychologist. I reckon it cost £21,000. Can I bring this in? No children and she has always had a full-time job.

I am worried that it will look as if she was utterly dependent and therefore get a chunk of my assets and maintenance.

There is a rather amateur pre-nup saying each makes no claims at all on the other.

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20 Jun 12 #337963 by Action
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I think you''ll need to post more information about earnings, assets and pensions for the experts on here to give advice. Are you wanting your wife to pay back the money that you invested in her training? I would assume that it would be classed as joint expenditure, for her to retrain for the benefit of both of you. I don''t think who pays for what in a marriage counts that much in the splitting of assets - the same way if one of you had paid the mortgage all the time, when the other was taking care of other bills.

What do you mean by ''my assets''? Are they assets that you had prior to marriage and co-habiting?

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There was a 29 year age gap. We signed a pre-nup. She swore blind she would never be after my assets.

I earn 80k and she earns 40K. We were together in all foir six years, only married for two.

The main asset was a house (now a flat in which I live)that I had owned solely for 26 years when she moved in 31 years when we split.

My total assets come to 350K. I am 63 and in dodgly health.

I am told that I owe her somethign because of the length of time we were together, never mind the short time we were married. I''m told she probably won''t get maintenance but rather a share of assets.

Leaving aside the sense of betrayal - there was no need for us to marry and we both thought the pre-nup a good idea - I did not make provision for this demand. I could have done so when we split but she didn''t mention anything. Now the building society''s terms have changed and I can''t increase the mortgage.

My hope is to pay her periodically or I will have to sell my new flat and I really can''t face that. But she may be after a lump sum only.

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21 Jun 12 #337992 by Action
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I''m no expert but on a salary of £40k I can''t see that she''ll need maintenance and is certainly not financially dependent. Your ages and health should be taken into account. In a short marriage I believe that the idea is to take away what you brought into the marriage. I''m not sure what is considered a ''short marriage'' though, given the 6 years co-habitation.

You certainly need some proper legal advice and I hope one of the legal experts on here will be along soon to point you in the right direction. Hopefully you''ll be able to make a modest lump sum offer so that your nightmare can be over asap.

You say you have ''been told'' - is this by your wife or your solicitor?

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