Hello everyone. I am going through a no-fault divorce and the 2 years is up in Feb 2020.
My stbx does not work but said she wants to retrain in September. At the moment I work overseas but still pay 100% of everything.
My own calculations show that considering child care payments (1,200 per month for 3 kids) and me paying maintenance in the form of 50% of the mortgage until the house is sold (1,000 per month), she will have to work to make ends meet. We have a huge mortgage and it is impossible for her to buy me out. I would also prefer a clean break when the house is sold, likely to be in 2022 when our youngest child starts high school. She would walk away with about 75,000 based on 50:50 split as it was a medium/long marriage (13 years), which is enough for a deposit to get house or she can rent until the kids are older then get a smaller place. She would earn between 25k to 30k a year when she starts working full time.
My question is do you think it is best to start financial settlement negotiations now/soon to have a better chance of agreement and we are both clear before filing for divorce or leave it until after filing?
I am thinking of sending my proposal to a lawyer to review, to ensure it is fair/reasonable before tabling the proposal to my stbx at some point in the form a a draft consent order for discussion.