nisi has gone through, and I am fearful of the increasing legal fees due to my husband (who is wealthy but now employing several people to help him hide it) refusing to talk. He constantly sends fabricated accusations via his solicitor, and I had said I will no longer respond to them. My stress counsellor says emotional abuse is going to be a grounds for divorce and legal aid entitlement - does anybody know anything about it please. I am so scared of the debts racking up with a solicitor.
If you''re at the Nisi stage then surely you''re not still looking for grounds for divorce? I always thought that legal aid was calculated according to personal finances - I have never heard of it being awarded because of emotional abuse.
You need to give clear instructions to your solicitor so that you''re not accumulating debts playing bat and ball with your ex. Don''t respond to anything that is not relevant - write to him to tell him that too. I''m sure he''ll soon get tired of it if he''s not getting a reaction. Conserve your energies for scrutinising his bank statements, assuming you''ll get to see them. Play your cards close to your chest, don''t let him see that you''re rattled or scared. My ex did change rather once he knew that I was back in the driving seat and it was a very empowering feeling.
The same goes for the relationship with your solicitor. He/she should be acting on your instructions.
To be eligible for legal aid you need to be on a low income and there needs to be evidence that you or your children were at risk of harm from an ex-partner or had injuries or a condition caused by domestic abuse or violence;
a letter from the police or your GP.
a court order
a multi-agency risk assessment conference (MARAC)
a health professional, eg a doctor, nurse, midwife, psychologist or health visitor
a refuge manager
a domestic violence support service
If you aren''t eligible for legal aid there may be other funding options so it''s worth making an appointment to see a solicitor. Some offer a first free short appointment so you can find out a bit about the process generally and to help you decide if you want to engage them.