Went to see a sol today who I really liked - he feels I stand a good chance of getting SM, that the pension will be offset against the equity in the house so he feels I will get to keep my house. In essence x2b will get nothing other than his share of his pension. Sol says he never tells anyone whether to proceed with a divorce or not but clearly there is no coming back from mine, and it might be better for me to bite the bullet and file against him for his adultery, otherwise I will be living in limbo for 2 years or more.
I am soooooo scared though. It's all very well him saying he thinks I stand a good chance, I knew that from research and helpful replies on this board - but what if I dont win ..... what will happen then ? Or what if I DO win - I wont have the money to pay the sol. He charges £180 an hour ?!?!?! Is that excessive or normal ? I have no idea. My sister has just had a sol for sorting out an estate following a death and hers charged £175 so I have no idea if this is an acceptable amount or not. He said he estimated a divorce would cost in the region of £2000 - £2500. Is that about right ? He said it could be more than that depending on x2b. Well I know he wont just bend over and pay this, he will contest so that will mean more money which I dont have. I will have to take out a loan or something but he seems supportive and understanding of my disability - it's why I chose him but still I am scared to proceed. He suggested he wrote to him and told him he was acting for me and it was my intention to file for divorce for his adultery and could he provide details of his means. Is all that normal ??
As it is - it went beyond the half hour - so I will be stuck with a bill for £90 now whether I go with him or not. I told him it had to be half an hour, but at the half hour point he said he hadnt given any advice yet, which he hadnt. Crafty bugger.
I dont know what to do. I went for advice, and even though he has said more or less what I wanted, still I am scared
Anyone got any comments ?
LOL well yes and no. I now am sat worrying about what to do. I really am no further along apart from the fact a solicitor actually said he thought I would get the house. Thing is now I am still worrying about what if I DO get it !! Money is still exceedingly tight and I've just been looking at quotes for loans and I certainly dont have the money to pay THAT back. So I just dont know what to do
Hello annie your not alone its scarey for all of us some advice i was given is only talk about the case when your with the sol not the weather how the kids are ecetera remember your paying the bill as for the charges ive seen as low as £100 an hour and read one block of a sol charging £600 an hour did you ask about legal aid worth checking.
Im trying to agrea terms with stbx to save paying for the sols new merc could you try the same perhaps? also i think that you can request he pay the costs because of his adultry, im sure you will get better answers so keep checking good luck, dukey
Yes I do think some of today was my own fault as I do tend to prattle !!!!! Lesson learned there if I do take him on !!! But he mentioned that x2b could be made to pay the divorce costs but not the court costs.
I dont think he will ever agree, ever ever. But I dont know whether to just email him and see what could be agreed on.