My stbx (God bless his cotton sox) has had the gall to have a mutual friend toell me that if I don't pay his lump sum he will come after me for SM, and that it has been in his interest not to work to maximise this.
we have no assets worth talking about
we have thousands of debt - joint, personal and business
I am earning. I am an IT contractor andtherefore a glorified temp. If I work all year with no holiday I can make a turnover of £70k (not a profit of it though)
Over the last 5 years I have worked to help my wonderful stbx train as a teacher (and give it up!), set up a computer games busines - which he now says he can't follow - although he has the stock, R&D etc.
And that he has been a house husband looking after the children... umm one at boarding school. one who was left at any opportunity in after school care and we have a cleaner and horses on full livery...
He has not worked (other than to paint some toy soldier for pin money!!)since he left in June. He says he can't get a job but is trying for jobs in area he is not qualified for! He is cohabiting and she owns her house plus other assets, he states his future is uncertain and mine is.
Taken from what you have written I would ignore his threats and press on with the ancillary relief procedure. The sooner you know where you stand the sooner you can start sorting out the mess.TBH, the whole situation sounds unreal with horses in livery and a child at boarding school whilst at the same time having no assets to talk of and being thousands in debt???
We were living on a fine line. And I thought stupidly he was working on a development over the last 12 months not seeing womeong else. We were bresking even but he took thousands from the business before he left and maxed the credit cards!!
It is not an unusual position to find people like me significantly in debt.