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She wants back dated child support but...

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23 Mar 12 #319703 by esox11
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Although she is still living there with my daughter.... i ould love to have the house! But dont want to upset the apple cart for my daughter as you recognise.

Lots of time and money went into building that house. Did most of it myself - labour of love etc.

She does not want much... the house, her new car (£20000) and wants me to pay the mortgage too.... :blink:I would love to live on her planet! She earns as much if not more than me too!

The mortgage has 19 yrs to run but we have endowments paying out next year which would have paid them off. Not sure where that leaves us but its all in the pot i suppose :(

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23 Mar 12 #319704 by LtMiz
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CSA can only be back dated to the date she applies to them for it as i have recently gone through the same with my s2bx....He claims i owe him for the past 4 yrs even though i have provided for our children all through that time. Im paying csa now and still providing for them as i dont like them getting upset when their dad dont get them what they need.
Think she wants the best of both worlds!

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23 Mar 12 #319709 by esox11
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Think she wants her extravagant life too continue really ltMiz... time to smell the roses.

She has had a financially worry free life up till now as i subsidised her lifestyle to the detriment of mine a little. I still had what i wanted mind. Separation is financially crippling and she needs to see that.

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23 Mar 12 #319750 by Bobbinalong
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esox, its quite simple.
Your were paying as much as you would have been whilst at home, it was her actually that made the first move cancelling her wage deposit.
....when you stop paying what you normally do, ie mortgage bills etc, all you are liable to pay is CSA rate, any extra is down to you, she has no ''ask'' for anymore, you now dont live there, she is infact renting your half for now, tell her that....

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24 Mar 12 #319868 by esox11
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Ta Bobbing,
That will go down like a lead balloon lol.

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24 Mar 12 #319875 by MrsMathsisfun
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As others have said, guess it time she wakes up to the reality of divorce. i.e a divorce from you includes your bank balance!!

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