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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

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Spousal Mainteance

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16 Apr 12 #324235 by sillywoman
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Your wife is working 12hours a week now. I assume a judge will "encourage" her to work more hours.

You must remember that although she appears to have a rather hefty income, alot of it is because shehas child related income. That decreases with each child reaching 18.

What you could do is offer fixed term spousal maintenance, ie. until the youngest is 18.

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16 Apr 12 #324237 by somuch2know2
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There are massive age differences and the youngest isnt 18 for another 12 years. I would be happy to agree fixed until middle child is 18- as that is another 5 years.

I get my draft proposal today from my barrister.. I am hoping its a good one

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16 Apr 12 #324239 by sillywoman
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I would say that is more than reasonable and gives your wife sufficient time to sort her finances out and perhaps retrain if she wishes or at least sort some full time permanent employment out.

Make sure you consider whether you want it stopping if she moves in with someone. I know someone who gave his wife the house lock stock and barrel. Two small children were involved and he really did not consider that she would have remarried and be living mortgage free with a wealthy man within a year!

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16 Apr 12 #324247 by somuch2know2
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All I want is the 70K - no charge on the remaing.. she can have it.

If she co-habitates, yes - the gravy train ends. Hopefully ist someone super rich who can spoil the kids and take them on great holidays and pay their university fees... as mine were spent on solicitors.

I hope I am not ordered to pay her costs.. I may seriously lose it...

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17 Apr 12 #324426 by pgh
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I''ve been looking at my figures again would it not be very difficult for her to ask for spousal maintenance when I looked after a family of 4 full time on £2700. Yet she would be lookng after a family of 3 part-time with £2740? (As i would have the kids approx 10 weeks of the year)
Her lifestle is better supported post seperation than I was able to provide before? (Wot a drepressing thought - its paying her to leave.)

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17 Apr 12 #324432 by somuch2know2
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I am in the same boat (exception on a higher income)

My STBX is better off post divorce and that is what I am going to focus on... Even before SM is added and without her getting off her arse to work more than 12 hrs a week she is bringing in 600 more than me.. If I go for some asset and she has to get a small mortgage, she will be be 100£ better.. not much but I am hoping earning capability/ potentional is looked at- as then it is a whole different ball park.

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17 Apr 12 #324440 by sillywoman
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Im starting to feel sorry for you now and I NEVER feel sorry for people that have affairs!

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