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17 Apr 12 #324445 by somuch2know2
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Ahhh dont feel sorry for me.. I should have had the balls to leave when I first said I was, before I had someone on the side, before I had an affair, before I was married, and before I had the last child, or the second... But then I wouldnt have 3 wonderful kids... who hate me. I still think it will get better.. but for now I am not going to live in regret

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17 Apr 12 #324466 by sillywoman
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Yes I agree with you. My ex is bitter with me because I divorced him. In his opinion I should have divorced him earlier when he had the first/second affair. Because then he would not have "lost" half his pension to me in divorce and would have been able to have another family! What and then cheat on her and make her feel she needs to stay for the kids!

I didn''t wait until I had met someone to leave though and I think that is the difference. I could never have done that.

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17 Apr 12 #324509 by somuch2know2
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Hindsight is always 20/20

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17 Apr 12 #324512 by somuch2know2
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The having "another family" really bothers women. My STBX constantly brings it up and after I tried leaving the 2nd time tried to convince me to have the snip- just so when I did leave I couldnt have one. She is also convinced this is my plan and has also shared this with the kids. So not only do they think I left them for another women, they think I want to replace them with a new family. It makes my blood boil thinking of the things she has told them

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17 Apr 12 #324514 by sillywoman
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My ex has had cancer, twice and chemotherapy so can''thave any more. Yes, to be honest that might have bothered me especially as he doesn''t do anything with the kids we already have.

If your girlfriend is much younger than your wife, that too will send her loopy.

My ex is with an old lady(dont know if thats the right term!) as have had to get an harassment warning served on her by the police, although I don''t blame her for anything. She may be a very nice woman in different circumstances. The problem is my ex only wanted an affair with her, like all the others, not end up stuck with her!

Karma!

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17 Apr 12 #324523 by somuch2know2
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What?? How did he end up with someone he didnt want to be with?

My girlfriend is slightly younger, but children are not on her agenda. She just payed off the last of her student loans and is doing very well in her career.

Proposal just came in... overall fairly happy but needs some tweeks.

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17 Apr 12 #324553 by sillywoman
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Because my ex just assumed she would be "another affair" and when I didn''t have him back that would have meant he would have been alone and that is his biggest fear, so he is still with her. He did dump her for a few days and "gave me another chance to take him back" bless him, haha, and he got text threats from her son.

You see my ex can abuse women and female children, but is afraid of men!

Anyway, as regards your proposal, if you are intending to live alone I dont think you will manage financially. But if you intend to llive with your girlfriend you should be okay.

Your wife of course will have similar costs to pay herself, phone, car, bills, dentist, optician, etc. etc.

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