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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

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Spousal Mainteance

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17 Apr 12 #324573 by somuch2know2
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I am very much intending to live alone. I have kids that I need to re-introduce into my life and a girlfriend I want to date (not live in each other''s pockets)

I am not looking to rush into anything, and while I am still with the woman I had an affair with she is not the reason I left. I left because I was unhappy in my marriage and my life. She was just ignited it all.

So many people jump out of one relationship straight into another. I need to stand on my own, live on my own, and be rightfully independent before I commit to anyone- whether that be living together, or marriage.

Dont I sound pompous?!;)

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17 Apr 12 #324576 by sillywoman
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No, you are doing totally the right thing, for you, your girlfriend and your children.

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17 Apr 12 #324607 by somuch2know2
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I think so too. Plus it will hopefully prove to my kids that I didn''t leave them to be with someone else. Maybe things will work out with my girlfriend, maybe not. All i need to focus on is me, my kids, and our future. - everything else is secondary

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17 Apr 12 #324609 by sillywoman
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Now you''re talking!

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17 Apr 12 #324615 by sim5355
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i hope you mind somuch2know2 but i have been reading your threads and i am not surprised your ex behaves the way she does,ok she is asking to much money and wont let you see your children but if you speak to her in the same tone you speak on here ie telling her where jobs are ,the sort of houses she should live in i dont blame her if she wont speak to you .you seem to be the victim in all this, but your not you are the one who had the affair and all you seem to interested in is having it all neatly sorted out preferably your way

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17 Apr 12 #324630 by dukey
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This thread is way of track, if you can help with the original posters question please do, if not please start your own threads.

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18 Apr 12 #324643 by somuch2know2
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pgh wrote:

Hi we have two young children so I need to pay child maintenance of 20% of my net monthly income, which will leave me with approx. £2,140.
My stbx has a net monhtly salary of £1600 she works 30 hours a week so would also be entitled to Working tax credits of approx. £500 per month plus chld benefit of £140.
That would give her a net monthly income of aprox. £2,740 excl childcare (which 70% will be covered in cost of childcare benefit)
Now excluding all other figures of splitting equity and penson sharing etc. If those are the figures we end up with i.e. her net income is £2,740 and mine is £2,140 would I be expeced to pay her spousal maintenace on top of this?
Also she could work an extra day as 70% of her childcare costs would be met or am I not seeing this in the correct light?
Any suggestions, anyone?

Thanks:S


From what my lawyer says, they will look at her needs and the childrents first,.

1. Will she have a mortgage?
2. How did you base your numbers? Are the above fixed costs? Travel card, rent, utilities, council tax- or do they also include things like food.

I have been told that when looking at expenditure to put down all libilities which are not variables- and that is when they will look at disparity

Looking at this I would say not, but they will look at a lot of things, and as everyone tells me there is no fixed formula to know

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