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Spousal maintenance

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30 Apr 12 #327465 by Sunshine10
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Need some intial advice. Am living in FMH with two children (7 and 10), husband having left us to find himself....
Trying to get a handle on finances and SM in particular. I have always worked, even through having the children and have a reasonably good job although my chances of promotion now are limited. I would say I have reached my peak career wise. Also have had to always consider the children. Husband although a contractor, has a good job and takes home 3 x my income.
Calculating my outgoings I am considerably short and would need about 25% of his salary per month to maintain the house, the kids clubs, the car etc etc (nothing extravagant, just what we currently have). This would make CM + SM about 35-40% of his take home pay. He could afford this and still have an equally good standard of living to what we have had together.

To me this sounds like a lot of money, even though I''m sure he could easily afford it.

How would this viewed. Sorry if it is a stupid question but are we expected to cut back? Ideally I would like to try to stay in the FMH to limit the upset for the kids but its expensive.

Any initial advice greatly appreciated.

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30 Apr 12 #327472 by Sunshine10
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I should add we have been together 25 years, the last 15 we were married and cohabitated for almost all the time before.

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