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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

What steps can we take to reach a fair agreement?

The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

What is a Consent Order and why do we need one?

A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.


I did it!!!!

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20 May 12 #331774 by mum33
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Hi everyone

Its been some while since Ive been on here, but i just wanted to share something that hopefully would give some of you a little hope.

I have just secured interim maintenance from my STBX .........and I represented myself in court:woohoo: It has to have been the scariest and most rewarding experience for some time. I hadn''t intended to do it that way but some mistakes from the court meant I had less than 1 days notice for the hearing and no time to instruct representation. So it was me or nothing.

And its made me much more confident of the whole process and our forthcoming FDR hearing.

And the best thing , is that I told him so! i never had a moments doubt and he was gutted.
H x

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20 May 12 #331776 by perin123
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Well done you!! x

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20 May 12 #331778 by raybird
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well done xx

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20 May 12 #331783 by mum33
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thank you very much. I cant wait to for the next part.........I have no doubts that I will be awarded a fair settlement now

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20 May 12 #331784 by dukey
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Just so we know

How long did the hearing last

Did the judge make an order or did your ex offer to pay without an order

It helps others who will face the same

If you have time what paper work did you both take

Don`t worry if you don`t want to answer, if you don`t ask and all that.

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20 May 12 #331806 by mum33
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The hearing was scheduled for an hour but actually took 1 3/4 hours
The judge made the order although my ex did come up with an offer in the court but I wanted the judge to decide. As it turned out it was £300 more than he wanted to give me. Prior to the hearing he didn''t want to give me a penny.

I had less than 24 hours to prepare so really all I had was the statement that goes with the application which states my essential outgoings and income. I took bank statements to support this but wasn''t asked to show them.
I was so nervous especially as my ex had a barrister but the judge was really good at putting me at ease.

Hope this helps

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20 May 12 #331808 by dukey
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It does help indeed it also helps others to understand what actualy happens should they be facing the same, a very common question the site gets is do I need a barrister if they have one so you''ve helped people with that question also

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