Its been some while since Ive been on here, but i just wanted to share something that hopefully would give some of you a little hope.
I have just secured interim maintenance from my STBX .........and I represented myself in court:woohoo: It has to have been the scariest and most rewarding experience for some time. I hadn''t intended to do it that way but some mistakes from the court meant I had less than 1 days notice for the hearing and no time to instruct representation. So it was me or nothing.
And its made me much more confident of the whole process and our forthcoming FDR hearing.
And the best thing , is that I told him so! i never had a moments doubt and he was gutted.
The hearing was scheduled for an hour but actually took 1 3/4 hours
The judge made the order although my ex did come up with an offer in the court but I wanted the judge to decide. As it turned out it was £300 more than he wanted to give me. Prior to the hearing he didn''t want to give me a penny.
I had less than 24 hours to prepare so really all I had was the statement that goes with the application which states my essential outgoings and income. I took bank statements to support this but wasn''t asked to show them.
I was so nervous especially as my ex had a barrister but the judge was really good at putting me at ease.
It does help indeed it also helps others to understand what actualy happens should they be facing the same, a very common question the site gets is do I need a barrister if they have one so you''ve helped people with that question also