Hi everyone, just need a rant, so frustrated and fed up.
My ex stopped paying joint lives SM, he then applied to court for variation ( he wants it dismissed) but had not factored in that he would have to complete form E again!
He lied throughout our divorce, had hid assets and made everything as difficult as possible. We received his documents at 5pm the day before the final hearing, 46 faxed pages.
He denied cohabiting with OW and the day after the hearing it came to light that they had jointly purchased a new home 7 months before we were divorced. He is still with her and they live a very luxurious life with 6 holidays abroad per year.
We were married for 35 yrs and I am 60yrs old living off a small pension & SM. Since he has stopped paying I have struggled to pay my mortgage and feed my animals.
It is now less than 2 weeks to our court hearing, my form E went to court the day before it was due, he has not provided anything and no response to any correspondence. Its as though I have stepped back in time and all the old wounds opened up again.
I know they are doing this for maximum effect and want me to end up with my home being repossessed. The OW told me " We will destroy you" and thats obviously the plan.
I honestly cannot understand the ow - what has it got to do with her for one. & tbh is (her) their life so unfulfilled together that they have to focus all efforts on "destroying" you.
It does open up all wonds it''s as if it never ends, all I would say is hang on in there, small steps & keep going. You are so strong that you have got this far & you know you are in the right, what goes round comes round & you will be blue to sit back & watch that when it happens (not a help now I know)
It will all come out in court, remember to ask for the repayment of your costs ( I forgot in the mess of it all - wont forget next time!)
What I don''t understand is how these people ''get away'' with this behaviour. Everything you read says you have to have the same life style and yet so many people seem to end up at polar opposites financially. This is one of the things that scares me to death.
Can one of the lawyers on here advise how to avoid this?