I am 49'' have been married 19 years & looked after children for much of that time then worked in part time jobs so am on a low income with poor prospects of increasing my hourly rate. At present tax credits top up my salary to a level where I can manage the bills etc but these will reduce to almost nothing in 6 hears time. My ex earns 10 times my salary; we have 3 children. He left me for a high earning new partner recently. We are negotiating. He would like to stop maintenance payments in 6 years time when our youngest child leaves school. He will be 61 & me 55. He also wants to split our assets 50/50. I have been accustomed to receiving benefits associated with his job such as a financed car & retail discounts and he wants to stop me receiving these. I think I would get a much better deal if I let the courts decide? Am I right?
Yes, almost certainly. You might not even have to go all the way to to a final hearing as once he realises that you are serious about getting a proper deal he may well settle along the way. You should be able to get spouse maintenance for a time at least, possibly indefinitely or until your retirement age - and you should certainly be able to have a share of his pension. A 50:50 share of property is also extremely unlikely given that you have the children and there is this level of income discrepancy, particularly after a long period of looking after the children.