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08 Aug 12 #348210 by Mrs Smith2012
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Hi everyone, I''ve got a really difficult decision to make....I currently work with/for my husband 3 days a week. We are currently going through a separation and I''m not sure what to do for the best! As we are not quite at sorting our finances out yet, I am fast realising that I need to get a new job! My question really is am I best going all out & securing mine and the kids future working full time & paying for childcare or am I best searching for a comparable, flexible, not so well paid job??

My husband doesn''t own the family owned Company!!

Anyone had similar experience? Thanks x

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08 Aug 12 #348238 by Action
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I can''t advise you what to do but here are my thoughts for what they are worth:

Best start by doing the sums to see if you are any better off with a full time job and paying for childcare, or staying with a part time job and having the flexibility. Also you need to take into account how your increased income might alter what would be a fair split of the marital pot. I guess it depends how old the children are as to whether you should be reasonably expected to work full-time.

Is he making noises about you leaving? Is it unbearable being in the same workplace? It might turn into a good bargaining tool if he''s desperate for you to leave.

Be careful of making rush decisions when there is so much at stake and when you have so much to think and worry about. If in doubt, I suspect it''s best to do nothing.

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08 Aug 12 #348290 by Fiona
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There is a lot to be said for returning to full time work as soon as is practical. Although financially there might not be much benefit now because of child care costs in the longer term an employment gap or working in less well paid part time flexible jobs means you fall behind in salary and promotions. That means you have less disposable cash and less to invest in pensions which has a lifelong impact.

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