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Avoiding spousal maintenance

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09 Aug 12 #348411 by Anon32
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Thanks very much for your support; it''s very much appreciated.

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09 Aug 12 #348412 by Anon32
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Hi Mike,

Thank you so much for your thorough and detailed response. My partner has instructed a very well reputed lawyer today and guidance like this means he will be able to go into his meetings more informed and prepared.

Thank you very much.

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09 Aug 12 #348414 by Anon32
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Incredibly useful re. the cross Petition and the Absolute, thank you so much. We are both very grateful. I hope your next partner is with you for all the right reasons.

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22 Nov 12 #367500 by cas50
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Hello
I am in a nearly identical situation and we are approaching our court date. Did you resolve the spousal maintenance or is it still ongoing?
I feel as frustrated as you do and am hoping that a judge will be sympathetic but the replies to your post don;t give me much hope.

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22 Nov 12 #367517 by Anon32
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Hi,

Firstly, you have my greatest empathy. You''re having to take a proactive role in a situation you didn''t create; not fun at all.

We now have the Decree Absolute, as my partner heaped loads of pressure on her to go and collect it, but financially, the result hasn''t been good. After time with the solicitor, he was advised he could lose hundreds of thousands of pounds over the next few years, so he has agreed to give her the house with a bar to her taking anything in the future. This has led to him feeling very vulnerable and has caused a lot of pressure on our relationship. I would advise your partner to deal with his situation as swiftly and cleanly as possible to minimise damage to your current relationship. My partner''s situation has dragged on for four years and a more strident approach at the start would have saved us a lot of trouble.

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22 Nov 12 #367518 by cas50
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Oh my goodness our situations really are identical. Ours has been dragging on for four years too!

I''d be more than happy to give her the entire house if it meant not paying maintenance. Did your partner avoid maintenance all together?

I know what you''re saying about relationship strain, it sure is tough. I cant wait til it''s over.

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22 Nov 12 #367535 by Anon32
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If only you could have a glass of wine via the web. He still has to pay CSA, but not spousal maintenance. The agreement has been in with the court for nearly 3 months now, so we''re hoping it all gets approved, so we can move on with our lives, buy a house etc. Doesn''t help that she doesn''t work while her kids are at school and I go back to work next week when we''ve got an 8 month old. So frustrating.

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