Not so much short each month, as I have trimmed everything down as much as possible already, but its having to go without a holiday, the rising prices of food meaning that I''m working longer hours, then having my hours reduced when one of my clients is taken into hospital, which happened today and will cost me about £35 a week.
I fully realise that everyone is in the same boat, but seeing his bank statements has made me realise how much I am struggling here. I don''t owe anything apart from the mortgage tho.
I haven''t had an income needs statement but he''s given a list of his outgoings. For some inexplicable reason (the answer of which I have requested in questionnaire) he borrowed £17k a few years back after we split.
Mine borrowed 20k and bought a 4x4 after we separated - some sort of rite of passage? - after years of telling us we had to cut back on everything/save the planet.
You may have to share his pension?
Don''t forget to check on his SERPS/S2P....unless of course you have a massive pension yourself........
Research shows financially men recover much more quickly than women do after divorce.
I''ve got a copy of all his occupational pension details, including a CETV. What''s SERPS/S2P? He''s got some idea about only giving me a very small percentage of his pension. Also, our date for submitting our responses to questionnaires has passed and I haven''t had mine from him. Needless to say, my replies went off on time to court and his sol.
Son dropped a bombshell last night, saying that he will be attending court for FDR. He wasn''t there for FA. How do I cope?
No expert - but SERPS/S2P is a second state pension - the basic state pension can''t be split and shared but this second state pension can and is often overlooked - worth asking about although not everyone pays into it.
Do you want your son to be at the FDR?
There are rules about who can attend - not sure who can.....