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Maintenance Hearing Thursday!

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07 Oct 12 #359761 by redwine47
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As our final hearing was postponed last month, (due to problem on STBX side) my legals felt that I should apply for maintenance as low income. I am maintaining the home along with 1 child and contributing to student also.

I read the info on how maintanance is worked out eg outgoings minus income etc.

My Details:
Outgoings 2.4K pm
Income: CM 380, CB 80, TCred 218,
Salary £500 + WTC 250
Total Income: 1428 (reducing back to £678 shortly)

Obviously my income will reduce to 678 again end of November, will this temporary work be used to work out deficit or should this not be taken into consideration?.

STBX details (approx):
Outgoings £600 + 380 CM approx:
Income £3k pmonth.

Firstly stbx living alone has not produced outgoings have some copies of bank statements

Bills/Standing Orders: £600pm, CM 380, (after all bills paid shocking expenditure: £200 restaurants, £180 golf, £1,000 cash withdrawls, £1200 groceries, internet shopping £250 pm, £300 clothing. (this is only a few of the transactions after bills paid). I believe he is spending excessively to inflate expenses.

Can we proceed without his proper income and outgoings.

PS looks like final hearing will be postponed for some time!


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07 Oct 12 #359763 by maisymoos
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If you need the money to live on and hearing is already set up I suggest you continue .

Look at your figures ensure yours are realistic and not extravagant. Do not give your ex cause to challenge you.

My ex quoted all sorts of day to day expenses. The judge said he would expect as individuals both of our outgoings to be similar ( not including child expenses) so he didn''t let my ex get away with making out he could not afford maintenance just because he claimed he needed more.

Hope it goes well for you x

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09 Oct 12 #360073 by redwine47
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Thanks maisymoos, I have been living frugaly for some time and am in red every month due to not being able to pay bills..... Unlike stbx.... It will be interesting to see what happens. I have nothing to hide. but I guess cause of my temporary job I will have no mission.
I''ll see wot happens!

Thanks for the advice.

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09 Oct 12 #360089 by loveourmum
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With all due respect to the NRP''s who do pay their fair share of maintenance and a bit more - what is it with parent/s these days who don''t!

Why can''t these NRP''s understand that this maintenance money is for their children who once upon a time were born out of love!

Am I missing the point?

The bills still have to be paid, food still has to be bought, your children will always needs shoes and clothes that fit them and see them through 4 seasons that can happen in a day!

Whether you pay or not!

Why pay or make the RP fight for every penny - who does without?

Heating? Boots for the Winter? Clothes for the Summer? Trips out with the school? And so it goes on...

Before anyone starts - I was that child of this "ilk" but am now a grandmother who cannot be bothered with any parent who does not put their child/ren first!

The only person who will pay in the long run is you for not paying!

Your child/ren will never forget!

We are in the 21st Century - not the dark old days where "things" were under the carpet never to be seen nor heard of again.

Your children are educated young people - regardless of how old they are - they are your life line - your heritage.

Stop playing your silly games because the only loser is you!

Best wishes Redwine47

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09 Oct 12 #360097 by redwine47
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Thanks loveourmum I''ve had to battle. 3years &it gets worse as time goes on (all sorts tricks by him) I guess he hopes I will give up and to be honest have been so close with the stress of it all....... Wish I didn''t have to go with cap in hand, its pathetic. But anyway "his time" will come i guess.

Thanks for the good wishes :-)

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09 Oct 12 #360100 by loveourmum
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It has been a battle and it will always be a battle.

Regardless of the financial outcome - you will always be the winner!

Believe me - been there!

No matter the outcome your children will always love you and remember the fight that you fought for them.

Best wishes always.

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