I met my ex-wife after she had been married to someone else for almost 20 yrs and had 2 children aged 9 and 15. I took them on and tried my best but after 12 yrs of marraige everything fell apart and I left her. The divorce wasn,t to messy, but she finished up with the marital home, all the contents, ISA,s etc. I left with my car, thats all. The court ordered that I pay £225 pm maintenance and because both pension funds where almost equal at the time no sharing order was made. I have now retired like my ex-wife and want to stop the maintenance, this looks like it will be an uphill struggle as she is trying to dictate the terms and complaining that her lifestyle will suffer. My thoughts are, why after all this time should she be entitled to any further payments, when in total over the years she has has £150,000 of assets and cash and I got nothing. She as not approached her first husband for anything, even though he is the father of her children and was married to him longer. What is the likely outcome at court in a few weeks, as I really want rid of her?
I am a retired police officer receiving around 1300 pm, and she is receiving 900 pm. I am 53 and she is 62. I am annoyed that during the divorce proceedings there was no mention of maintenance until the last sentence by her barrister asking for it and not giving me any opportunity to defend it. I paid for and brought up her children with very little financial assistance from their father who drank all his money away. I felt at the time of the hearing my barrister was very weak and did nothing in court to fight my corner, along with all the tears that the judge fell for. She as also it looks like managed to hide money away that she as failed to disclose, which I am hoping will make a difference. My new wife and I would just like to see the back of her.
Yes my income as dropped quite a lot, it is now 200pm less than when the original order was made. My wife does work, but we still have a mortgage etc, where my ex wife got all the insurance policies to pay hers off.