I''m in a quandry about this. My partner and I have been debating the pension for 4 years now, everytime I get close to a settlement they back off and change the goalposts!! I''ve been instructed by the solicitor to go to court as we are not getting anywhere near a settlement.
I now find out that they ahve finished their job and in full receipt of the very pension that we are debating!!!!! They have received lump sums (spent!) and resettlement grants (Spent!)and are receiving monthly pension in FULL!!!! How is this possible if it is in divorve settlement!!!
i have no idea what to do now. I need some advice and quickly. If this is the case then surely everyone who is going through a divorce just hang on and put them off until your in receipt of it then spend it all and theres nothing left.
I really dont know what Im upposed to be doing now? On top of that they are refusing to turn up at court for FH, just burying their head in the sand.
Ive tried writing in the third person as I''m writing on behalf of my friend who is quite comphobic.
Yes married. Im just worried about the lump sums.... Are they now gone completely? as they should have been adjusted to reflect the pension split. Or do they just take into account whats left in the pension?
For instance the CETV 3 years ago should have been split 60/40. in his favour. which would be fine. but he decided NO. he wasnt having that. Then 70/30 came about, I agreed, he changed his mind again and now we are just going to FH. If the decision vcame to go back to 60/40 would it now be 40% of that CETV value that was awarded to myself(my friend) taken from his current pension that he is now in receipt of????
That makes sense to me otherwise we would now have to look at the pension again and it is obviuosly worth less as he has spent a good chunk of it. at least 20% in lump sums and commutations.
Hope that helps. But Im (my frind) is still in a pickle with what to do.
I dont think it was done recklessly but it was done none the less knowing full well it was in contention and had been for 4 years.
Trouble is that my friend has a solicitor and the partner has refused to get one on the grounds of costs.. They have basically withheld the dissolving of the divorce so that they can receipt pension in payment, as they think that is their entitlment. They now refuse to even turn up at court and constantly refer to not paying anything...... where do we stand???