Hi, my wife and I have decided to part company and go our own way, this is all mutual as we have grown apart over the last year or so. My question, which I hope somebody can help with, is my pension in danger. Since we started dating in my last two years of service, my partner persuaded me to hand in my notice to the army and start a family life with her and her teenage son, I left in 2010 (regretfully), we married a few weeks after. My wife has been a full time student since I met her, I have supported her and her son (also a student)throughout the relationship. We moved from her social house into a property I bought in 2008. My wife will graduate this year and is now actively seeking work. I have had a terrible year suffering from depression, anxiety and received anger management therapy. The crux is the house is in negative equity, the car is under HP, and I struggle month in and month out to make ends meet. Now she is about to leave into a highly paid job, she has used her bursaries and student loans to clear her own debts as I was supporting her. What will happen to me now? Is my property under threat or my pension? The advice people are giving me just seems so unfair to me, as she will have a debt free start to a new career, whilst I have left the army from a significant wage to half of that and my pension. Any advice given will be much appreciated. I know my health is suffering from all the worry and stress I am feeling.
It sounds like this was a relatively short marriage - how long were you married for?
With short marriages it is more common to exclude assets built up prior to marriage when dividing everything up, you state that you left the forces before getting married so your armed forces pension all built up pre marriage.
That is correct, we got married a few weeks after I left the forces, and the house I purchased off my parents a few years before that. I have offered her the car, as I do not use it, but need to get a written agreement that I will carry on with the payments for it until completion, then I will sign the vehicle over to her.
From what you''ve said, all your assets should be safe as they were gained prior to your marriage, same goes for your pension as it wasnt earned during the marriage.
My partner is in the RAF and is going through Divorce, my understanding is, your partner would only be entitled to a pension share if they effectively supported you during your time in the forces which she didnt.
Im no legal advisor but this is what all my research has led me to believe.