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19 Jul 12 #344181 by revenge
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Married 22 years husband paid into pension 5 years before we married. I am about to start divorce proceedings and I still live in the MH. Husband took it upon himself to split all the money in the joint account 50/50. He gets a forces pension at just under £800 a month after tax. He has now said he will give me 50% of this temporary until all is sorted out legally. He said the tax on it has been under paid and there will probably be a bill for over £1000 to pay. Also as he is giving me 50% of this for now that I should pay 50% of the tax a month, am I right in thinking he should pay the tax as its his pension? Also the money he has split in total he has said I have to pay all the bills and my living costs out of this and when it''s gone it''s gone. I don''t work at the moment haven''t done for some years. He earns over 10k a month plus his pension. I don''t think it is fair that while his share goes up my decreases, even when I get a job it will be on a low income.

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He earns over £10k a month. Just how much each month are you getting? If you have no income and it''s a 22 year marriage, this a maintenance case if ever I saw one. You are going to get half his total income in the interim I trust? If not, it''s time for him to wise up.

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19 Jul 12 #344213 by dukey
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Errr £10,800 per month net income, find a solicitor, i mean really find a specialist family law solicitor.

Cheeky as this is call the wiki line who can suggest one, or erm send a message to the guy who answered this post jonathancj, you need the best help you can find with this.

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20 Jul 12 #344281 by revenge
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I have got a solicitor but he hasn''t reassured me that I would get sm, he said I''d maybe get it for a period of say 3-5 years as if it went to court the judges look at it now that ,I use this as time to try and raise my own income. ( feet finding time).
I am 52 years old and have been looking at college courses but I''d like to do something I''m interested in, which is difficult as I am still very emotional about what has happened.
My husband told me for years I didn''t have to work, which fell into place with his job. Then 2 months after he left he said I would have to go out and get a job, I can''t expect him to give me 3k a month! His words not mine.
He split all the marital funds, his pension has a CETV of 300k. He is 45.
He moved into a small house with ow and now says he needs to buy a place of his own and is trying to push me into selling the marital home, which I will at sometime but not just to suit him it is to big for me anyway.
He fell very lucky getting this job when he left the forces 5 years ago, weve both worked hard doing up a couple of house which had its difficulties as he worked away. We are both from very normal working families but I believe the job and the money went to his head.
I would always describe my husband as a very nice man, I can be the stroppy one at times, but he has shown a side to him I didn''t really know he had the change in him since he left is unbelievable we don''t talk he just emails me when he wants to tell me something or ask something .
I am worried for my financial future as I don''t want to go back to struggling as we did in the early days. I don''t want to sound like a spoilt brat because I''m not and I don''t live a designer lifestyle even though I could have done on his income.

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